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Essence Mommy Meet Up – Food For The Mommy Soul

by Nellie

Essence Mommy Meet Up

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The one thing I love most about being invited to different events is the connection that face to face meetings bring. Since I was an only child I think I have some weird over compensation side effect because I absolutely adore meeting new people. Its why I go to conferences and events. There are so many good people in the world and meeting them is so much fun!

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So I was more than excited to attend the Essence Mommy meet up thrown by essence magazine and the Chic Busy Mom. When I rsvp’d yes I really was not expecting to leave the event with such a sense of fulfillment, pride, joy, and relief.

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The event was held at the Essence Magazine offices just a short walk from my job in midtown Manhattan. When I entered the extremely elegant offices I was overwhelmed to see my friends–I only knew two people were going to be there prior to the event. I got to finally meet Monica from SoFamilyOnline and yes she is even more fabulous in person! All of my favorite girls were lined up on the other side of the table from me including Aliah, Ghada, Kim, Cass, and Onika. Candace was in the house too! There were around 20-25 very influential mom bloggers of color in the room and I was simply excited to be in their presence!

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There was a lavish spread for lunch, and Svedka sponsored drinks for everyone. We got started with a quick toast and an introduction of ourselves.

A Conversation for Mommies

We started talking and I realized quickly that I was in the right place. We talked about our favorite tv shows and our favorite social media. We traded tips and tricks and resources. We laughed, a lot.

Then we broached the subject of mommy guilt. Most of us in the room works outside of the home so this was a sensitive subject for us. As a full time working mom there are real drawbacks to bringing in a paycheck. Sometimes there are issues with the daycare, sometimes you have to work late, sometimes you have to get in past your child’s bedtime. Its tough.

We all agreed that we need to make a conscious effort to be present for not only our children but our husbands. We also must take time for ourselves to recharge and be better for those we take care of. As women we are always the caretakers, we must remember to take care of our bodies, spirits and soul. We also talked about working with blog brands and other aspects of blogging. I was absolutely floored by the sheer beauty, intelligence and influence gathered in one room. Unlike what the media portrays, there were 25 or so African-American women in a room sharing very similar stories, laughing, sharing and agreeing with one another in an extraordinary way.

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I’ve noticed in the bloggy world there has been a lot of competitiveness lately, seems like a few folks are clawing their way to the top. This environment was the exact opposite of that. It really brought me full circle because when I started blogging I did it for the love. My job does not allow me to write about my passions so I do so here. Getting to interact with amazing people through events like these, is one of the absolute reasons why I blog. Any money or trinkets that are associated are just icing on my very yummy blogging cake. Do I want to grow my blog? Of course…but only to make genuine connections.

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Blogging is very much like several different sororities. There is that one person that joins to be popular, there is that one person that joins to get a free ride or connection, then there is the person that joins for the sisterhood. I am so here for the sisterhood. But I digress. 🙂

The Essence Mommy meet up was food for my soul is the best way possible. I’m just happy to have been a part of such an amazing event.

Have you done anything lately for your soul? Tell me about it.

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45 comments

Joi May 28, 2013 - 7:30 am

Glad to see you are quite clear on your end game in blogging 🙂 The connections are amazing! I never thought about the sorority comparison, very true about blogging being similar & with the business side. We close a lot of deals & make jobs happen for the Sorors. I don’t know all these beautiful women except for 2. I’ll be sure to say hello to them soon. Thx for sharing another experience resulting from blogging.

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Miz May 28, 2013 - 7:44 am

LOVE LOVE LOVE YOU SAID THERE WAS NO CLAWING HERE.
there is SO room enough for us all to rock.

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:59 pm

yes it was awesome Miz, I can appreciate some good sista time.

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thedoseofreality May 28, 2013 - 8:09 am

That looks like a fantastic event! Could not agree with you more about the chance to meet up face to face and network. It is key! :)-The Dose Girls

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:59 pm

Thanks Ashley! 🙂

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Kim May 28, 2013 - 9:55 am

Once again, you inspire me to get out there and try to meet (in person) other bloggers!!
I love the online friendships that are formed through blogging and think it would be very cool to met in person!!!
It is funny the different approaches people take to blogging – for me, it has become a great way to document a year-long goal. After that I might change up how (and why) I blog or keep going the same way – either way, I love reading and commenting on so many wonderful blogs!!!

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:58 pm

Yay! Yeah, I love reading you guys’ blogs. I feel so connected with yall!

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Tamara May 28, 2013 - 10:32 am

Sounds like a fantastic and comfortable event – glad you got so much out of it. I have noticed competitiveness, which is strange sometimes. Aren’t we all out there trying for the same things? However I have envied people more successful than I am during low periods. Thank you for writing about yet another successful blogging related event that you have attended.

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:58 pm

Yes comfortable is the right word. I felt very much at home there. The competition is like overwhelming at times, I entered blogging I think at the tipping point of when brands entered…so when I was reading for years and years before I decided to start my own–this stuff really didn’t exist. Sigh. I hope its a phase.

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Kita May 28, 2013 - 10:52 am

I am not even going to touch the competitive stuff these bloggers do. I see it here in Atlanta which I think has the worse blogging community. I am glad you got out and got to meet some other bloggers that’s a good thing.

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:56 pm

Kita, its crazy. I can’t. Its so out of control, I can only just do what I do. The NYC bloggy community is pretty good from what I have seen so far, but there is shade, I’ve gotten some at other events.

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Veronica May 28, 2013 - 11:09 am

You have the coolest conventions in your area. I wish I had blogging conventions coming around this part of Texas. It must have been so nice to meet up with ladies who have similar interests and lifestyles. I know all about the mommy guilt. I was sad to know that I was going to have to be a working mom. But the biggest blessing is that my mom and my mother in law take turns taking care of my daughter. It was a huge relief and financially blessing for them to offer to do that.
I hope you made some great new friendships from the convention.

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:54 pm

I think Blissdom is in Texas and there is a BBC coming to Dallas this fall you should see if you could go!

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Stacie May 28, 2013 - 3:30 pm

What a cool event! I love me some sista-hood! Wish we had more of that here.

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:53 pm

I totally love the sisterhood too Stacie!

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The Chic SAHM May 28, 2013 - 4:15 pm

It’s always refreshing to be in a room full of women and it be nothing but genuine love there!! The event sounds like it was amazing! The topic that you ladies discussed is right on trend with how I think a lot of women feel. So glad you had a great time!!

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:53 pm

Yes it was super refreshing. I didn’t know what to expect but I was pleasantly surprised by the result.

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Aracely May 28, 2013 - 4:29 pm

This sounds like it was an awesome event! I wish they’d do a meet up here in DC! 🙂 I so need this. Thanks for sharing.

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:52 pm

They need to do this everywhere, it was just so great.

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LaShawn May 28, 2013 - 11:28 pm

I think blogging can really be like a sisterhood. if we could get past all of the competitiveness. This looks like it was so cool! I wish I lived in new york to be near these type of events! WOW!

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:51 pm

Come to Brooklyn Lashawn!!

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Darcel {The Mahogany Way} May 29, 2013 - 1:00 am

Looks like you all had a good time. How cool that you were invited to that event. I love the blogging community, and it is definitely a sisterhood.

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:51 pm

It was pretty awesome, the sisterhood is the greatest.

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Carli May 29, 2013 - 9:04 pm

What a great event! And I hate to tell you this but the guilt doesn’t end with being a mommy. I had to stay late for work and cancel some plans with my granddaughters a couple of weeks ago and I still can’t get it out of my mind. It doesn’t make for a happy me!

I would be lying if I said that sometimes thoughts of a little extra cash from blogging don’t come to mind but I really want to help people. I’m using my blog to grow my personal training business (and trust me I am the cheapest personal trainer around because it’s more about helping people for me).

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:51 pm

Aww! I bet the grands are even worse because they love their grandparents more (or so it seems sometimes 🙂 Extra cash is awesome, as long as you are not stepping on any necks to get there 🙂

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miss donna May 29, 2013 - 9:24 pm

this looks like an awesome event, Nellie! i always enjoy hearing your personal perspective and what you learned and gained as an individual….what you share is genuine and that’s one of the reasons why i admire you as a blogger. i have big goals for my blog, but i do believe there’s enough to go around for everybody.

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:49 pm

Thank you Donna 🙂 There totally IS enough to go around! There are so many companies big and small tat want to work with us because they understand our influence. When one blogger gets an opportunity WE ALL DO.

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Carla May 30, 2013 - 11:06 am

Looks like you had a lot of fun at this event. That’s one thing I like about blogging–you get to me so many different and unique people and make lasting connections with them. And people wonder why I blog..

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:48 pm

Yes, seems like some of worlds greatest people are bloggers 🙂 People wonder why I blog all the time. I just can’t even begin to explain it to them!

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Baby Teems May 30, 2013 - 6:42 pm

That is beautiful. I wish that could be invited to an event like this. You pretty much said it all about blogging. I feel exactly the same. I just want to make genuine connections myself. This is what I enjoy first. I would never want to stray away from that. GREAT POST. Inspriational for myself too!

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:47 pm

Thanks Teems. I see a lot of people get caught out there and it is so hard to watch :/ but, to each’s own.

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Whitney May 30, 2013 - 9:03 pm

This sounded like an awesome conference, something women of color need so bad. Thank you for sharing with us.

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Nellie May 30, 2013 - 9:24 pm

It really was a great meeting. Since there are a lot of bad images of us out there, I try to report all the positive that I can!

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Kathy Radigan June 1, 2013 - 10:52 am

So glad you had a wonderful time! I love meeting and connecting to new people too. It’s one of things that I love the most about blogging. It’s such a great feeling when you find a group of like-minded people. So nice to find your site, I will be now making this a regular stop!

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:45 pm

Yes Kathy, it really is the greatest part! Thank you so much for dropping by!

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Debra June 1, 2013 - 9:30 pm

Looks like you had a great time. I’m definitely here for the sisterhood and I’m so glad I found SITS which led me to a great group of bloggers.

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:44 pm

Yes! This sisterhood is where its at! 🙂 SITS is really amazing, the cream of the crop hang out there! 🙂 Thanks so much for stopping by.

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Sherelle June 1, 2013 - 11:17 pm

I love to see women coming together to share tips and offer helpful advice! Mommies especially need an outlet like this to share, express, and relax! I love Essence Mag!

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Nellie June 2, 2013 - 9:43 pm

It really was a fantastic time. I wish I had this as a weekly meeting Lord know I need it!

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Yum Yucky June 3, 2013 - 11:03 am

the thing I love most about this post is all the beautiful happy smiles in the pics. Now what is this about blogging cake? I’ll take 5 slices.

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Nellie June 3, 2013 - 11:00 pm

Me too Josie! LOL

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KalleyC June 3, 2013 - 3:50 pm

Glad that you enjoyed the event, and its great to meet bloggers in person. You’re right about clawing to get to the top, glad there was so much love there.

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Nellie June 3, 2013 - 10:59 pm

Yes, it was great, I love a good positive event, because some of the blogger events can tend to get catty and that is not what I am here for AT ALL! 🙂

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Hope June 4, 2013 - 8:00 pm

Love this! It’s great that you all could get together and share and socialize. Seems like you are making some awesome connections.

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Faith June 5, 2013 - 9:45 pm

Looks like such a great time!

I love that you said you’re blogging for the sisterhood! That’s perfect!

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