The One With The Unruly Hair

The One With The Unruly Hair


Somewhere deep down in my heart when I was in my late teens, I realized that my high school boyfriend was going to be my husband. This meant babies! In my head we would have 3 little girls and we would sit around all day having multiple tea parties and doing our nails. God had other plans! :)


I was always so curious about the hair our kids would have. My husband’s hair is very thin and straight,  and even though he is Puerto Rican he has no curl AT ALL in his hair. Meanwhile my hair is the kinkiest hair in the world. So somehow I thought we could get a nice perfectly flowing blend of our hair textures.


My eldest baby’s hair is a nice combination of the both of us. Somehow I thought I would be able to handle it–I totally wasn’t! My daycare provider gave him beautiful cornrows until he got his hair cut when he turned three.

My youngest is a different story. His hair is definitely more coarse and curly. The weirdest part? He has an insane amount of hair on the top of his head and the back just simply never caught up.



And since his hair is more coarser that his brothers, trying to comb it, or even undo braids is the struggle of all struggles.

But even though his hair is harder to manage he has the best curls ever! His little ringlets flop around the place and he loves it. I always wonder if he is going to grow his hair out like the Bulls player Joakim. That is if the back of his head ever catches up!


Then I think about what I would have to deal with if I had to put bows and clips in this type of hair everyday. Oh my.

I will just remain thankful to my girl at the daycare and enjoy the rare moments when his hair is wild and free (and untamed!).


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 Do you love your hair texture? Were you surprised by the hair of your children?



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Schnelle "Nellie" Acevedo is a busy mom of two young boys (3 and 6), she is an Account Manager by day and a self proclaimed fitness junkie by night. Brooklyn Active Mama is a body positive community that focuses on demonstrating to all women that you can always find time for fitness. A recent running addict, Nellie has completed 7 Half Marathons and is currently training for the New York City Marathon on 11/1/2015. Nellie also is a co-founder of the annual A Healthy U Conference which is a conference dedicated to helping women improve their mental, spiritual and physical health. Nellie is a licensed Zumba instructor in Brooklyn. You can find Nellie on TwitterInstagramFacebookPinterest, PeriscopeGoogle Plus.


  1. Hahahaha I think I have the same hair as your son – although mine is unmanageable ALL over! He is so adorable and the hair is AWESOME! I was so glad I had boys b/c my hair is the worst (which is why I keep it so short) and the boys I just cut when it gets too crazy. One more thing about boys that’s easier…well, it’s supposed to be!! Great pictures – loved them all.
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    • I know I should cut it, but there is an old wives tale in the Jamaican culture that says we shouldn’t cut the baby’s hair until they are speaking clearly. smh lol

  2. The bows, the clips, the ponytails and braids – this is so my life. As much as I thrive on the challenges of my girls; hair at times, there are days I wish I could just let it go here, because it truly can be a pain in the butt, especially washing their hair, because of course neither really likes it and will cry if the water is too hot, cold or in between (s definitely bath time equals no fun around here!). But seriously, your little guy is absolutely adorable and love, love, love his hair :)
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    • Omg my kids do the same thing!! I feel the water before I put it on and its always warm but according to them its too hot or too cold. drives me nuts!

  3. Love his hair!! So cute! I am terrible with hair…luckily, my daughter is great with it and started learning how to do fun things with her hair at a young age, so I have never really had to do much. I am a ponytail kind of girl. My mom wasn’t good with hair either. My oldest has a mop. His curls grow up…my husband has tight curls in his hair and my son’s hair is similar to his, but looser curls and right now I can’t stand it. But he’s 16 and only wants to get it cut once in a blue moon and I pick my battles.
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  4. Girl! Pookah’s hair at that stage was CRAZY!! Curls everywhere! Thank goodness for a haircut because it was just too much!
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  5. I would not be able to deal lol it would be cut off soon as he turned one. My son had a lot of hair I put that mess up in a ponytail ( I could not braid) til he turned one now it grows back so fast he just got it cut Saturday its now looking a hot mess and today is just Tuesday.
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  6. I love his hair! It looks at lot like my nephew… and my sister refuses to cut or braid it. The sitter does it occasionally, but most of the time it is wild and free.

    I have about 3 different textures of hair on my head right now. The back is perfectly curled, the middle is rough and rugged frizzy curls, and the top is very very loose curls… Learning to embrace all 3 textures though!
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  7. I think this describes my future dilemma. My husband has incredibly thick, coarse hair and if he grew it out it would be a mass of waves. I have very thin straight hair. I am worried about our kids. We actually call my husband’s hair “the bouf” when it gets too long because it is, well, bouffy! Haha.

    I didn’t get your newsletter yet but I know I signed up! I’ll have to check my folders!
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  8. He has such awesome hair! My now 3 year old has a different texture than mine – nice tight curly coils and now as it’s getting longer some will often hang down in her face like she’s a mini-Michael Jackson. Also, since I’m done transitioning she’s VERY excited to have “hair like mommy.” I’m hoping the next one is boy so I won’t have 3 heads of girls’ hair to do (including mine).
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  9. I love that hair – I hope he is always as care free and happy with it as he looks in those pictures.
    And, I just got my newsletter while ago – It is awesome!! You rock!!!
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  10. I love this so much! My son has unruly hair too and I love it! This is also funny because my husband makes references to Joakim as well. I wrote about my son’s hair journey (which is still ongoing) as well. I’m don’t think I’ll ever be ready to cut it!
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  11. LOL. I first read this post this AM on my phone at my little screen did no justice to those pic. He is so ca-ute, but whoa!..on my desk top it’s a whole notha I think his hair is great. Love his curls and crazy 😉 Girl a little spay bottle with water, olive oil and a light moisturizer works wonder for managing any hair. I went natural so my daughter could stop wishing for straight hair. My texture is soft, hers…lawd have mercy. I just learned how to manage her hair after researching natural hair for me.
    Thank God for your boys though…I prayed for a boy so i wouldn’t have to comb any more hair. great post
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  12. My goodness I LOVE that hair!!!

    Your wee one is TOO cute and I love these pics. Adorable.
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  13. He does have cute hair though! I love the curls. My daughter’s curls have S curls and Z curls, and my son just has loose curls. I love their hair, it’s a nice combination of my hair and Mr. C. As for my hair, i love it! I can’t get enough of my Dreads. I don’t know if I’ll ever trim them again, but right now I’m just loving it so much, my daughter said she wanted dreads too! (we’ll wait on that though)
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  14. He is adorbs, Nellie. Put some natural oils like jojoba or even olive oil on his curls and he’ll be good to go. Especially put oil on the back where it needs to catch up.
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  15. He is SO cute!! I love his hair! I can’t imagine having to do a girl’s hair, I never learned all the braiding and cute stuff for myself, let alone a daughter! Your newsletter is awesome – great job, congrats!
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  16. Look at all those curls! So stinking adorable! I have very thin, frizzy hair. It doesn’t look good for more than about five minutes. If it’s humid, it gets an annoying wave to it that’s enough to make it look like I didn’t do anything to it. If it’s dry out, I look like my hands are constantly attached to one of those static electricity balls (remember those things we thought were so much fun when we were kids?). The Husband has fantastic, thick and dark hair with a good bit of curl…but not too crazy. My father’s is the same way. Naturally I hoped that our kids would have his hair. Unfortunately, they seem to have both gotten my limp, annoying hair. Who knows though, my father and I both had pretty drastic hair changes after early childhood!
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  17. He’s a cutie! It sounds like he has hair like my son’s who is attached to his long, extremely thick and curly hair.
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  18. This is so cute! He has awesome hair! And so do all of you it sounds like. I love how hair comes in all types of textures. It makes me really sad when people like one of my good friends says she wants hair like mine because she says I have good hair. To me, hair is like beauty. It depends on who is looking at it. I love the natural movement where all of the “kinky haired sisters” are embracing their natural hair. I think it’s all about learning how to manage it. I’ve been natural (no perms) for the last 9 years and it took me a while to get the hang of taking care of my own hair. My mom used to say how I needed a perm. Oh how wrong was she! So far my son has a combination of both of our hairs. His curls are extremely tiny. BUT we believe in boys cutting their hair lol so at 9 months when he had the uneven fro type we chopped that baby down and he’s been getting hair cuts by daddy ever since :) If I have a girl…wow…I love doing hair so it should be fun. I used to do everyone’s hair so go figure!
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    • See! My mom used to force me to get perms too, I haven’t had one in about 10 years too and its the best decision. if you have a girl she is gonna be so adorbs no matter what kind of hair she has! Especially if she looks like her bro!

  19. My husband and I both have super fine hair that is straight as can be, and both kids do too. I don’t like it, it’s so hard to do anything with it. My little girls hair looks so cute in the morning when I fix it, but 5 minutes later her bow is slipping out and I have to chase her around with little rubberbands and a brush all day.

    Your little guy’s hair is adorable!! I love the curls!!
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  20. I LOVE his hair! The curls are just precious. :)

    My hair is pin straight and I love it. I’d kill to have my sister’s natural curls. We couldn’t be more opposite when it come to hair. I curl mine whenever the urge strikes but she cannot straighten hers. It’s a fruitless effort because her hair curls back right away. it’s too funny!

  21. oh my goodness, can i just kidnap your little boy? he is the cutest. my mother and i both have an obsession with curly hair (ours is stick-straight asian). my first boyfriend had ringlets just like your son and my mom would fawn every time she saw him.
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  22. I’m cool with my hair texture, it just gets annoying trying to workout. The youngest is adorable with all those curls! I think dealing with hair (male or female) is going to be my biggest complaint!
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  23. I was a bit surprised that Des was born with stick straight hair. Really, no one else in our families ever were. My husband has waves and was born with curls. Same with his brothers. My sister and I were born with shirley temple curls, and hers grew very kinky while mine is really more wavy these days. Scarlet was born with the same curls, and hers turned to waves like mine. Silky waves – hers.
    So’s just weird. With so many curly heads in our family, I really don’t know what to do with his!
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  24. Girl, that is a lot of hair on that baby. I am loving the curls though. My two also have a different curl pattern and I love both.

    PS – We totally need to put them in their “I love my bro” shirts and showcase the hair :)
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  25. My daughter has my crazy hair. Well my hubby & I both have long hair, but mine was curly as a kid & I would always get tangles. My Dad would comb my hair & I would cry because it hurt really bad from being tangled. Now we go through the same thing with her. If you know of any tangle sprays or creams that would be great help. We’ve tried a bunch.

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