Sometimes you just have to say thank you, and goodbye.
There is a very popular book by a Japanese author called The Art of Decluttering by Marie Kondo. In her book (which I love) she talks about things that are hard to let go of but NEED to be released because you no longer need it—or it’s not sparking joy for you.
This is how I feel about leaving my current job.
I had an amazing time here. Here are just SOME of the things that happened while employed at this establishment (in order):
- I met the person who would be my permanent best friend (see above)
- I got Married
- I got my Masters Degree
- I moved into my first apartment
- I had my first born
- I bought a house
- I had emergency gall bladder surgery
- I started blogging
- I had my second born
- I completed my certificate in Project Management
- I became a Zumba Instructor
Imagine completing all of these things with the same family of people that I spent 40 hours plus with every week. When my job became frustrating or even unstable the only thing that kept me there was the people. It was a family environment when I walked in, we celebrated each other, we had pot lucks for no reason at all but just to be together for our lunch breaks.
Things change when management change. Unfortunately the family dynamic was no more. However, despite not being allowed to do fun things we remained close. New opportunities, layoffs, through it all we latched on to one another and held tightly.
I learned how to speak up in meetings, I learned how to train people on technical systems, I learned how to speak to a room full of people with confidence and poise. I learned so much about project management and being a great manager. I had none of these skills when I walked through the door at 23 years old, scared and quiet.
About a month ago things became slightly impossible. Details aren’t necessary but I started to get the feeling it was time. A few years ago I realized that after 4 internal promotions I had hit the wall—but blogging had started to take off quite a bit and I lost focus on progressing in my career. I could sit and complain about how bad the situation was or I could do something about it and explore opportunities.
The minute I put myself out there, I got such a great response from employers. I wondered how I could have stayed so long. I knew my skills, they knew my skills, but my family—my family was my heart. How could I not see them every day? It was a harder decision than I ever could imagine.
My new position gives me a sense of calm. I know I can do the job, really well. The interview process was akin to a world wind romance, I interviewed with others but something about this one felt right. I am so excited to start, meet new people and learn a brand new industry.
Like with any job there will be things I don’t miss. That list is long. However, my people, my family that have celebrated high moments with me and wiped my tears when things got rough. Those are the people I will miss dearly.
For this job, I will use the Marie Kondo method. Thank you for everything you have given me and goodbye.
What do you need to get rid of in order to move on? Have you ever let personal connections stop you from making a practical decision?
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23 Comments
Wishing you the best of luck in your new adventure!
OH THIS MADE ME SMILE —>
My now job gives me a sense of calm.
THATS WHAT LIFE IS ALL ABOUT.
so so so happy for you.
<3
This is beautiful. I definitely have had feeling of being scared to move on career wise. It’s hard, but the friendships you made seem genuine enough that they would remain. All the best in your new journey.
Aw, Nellie I am seriously so very happy for you and can only wish you nothing but the best now!!! 😉
Yes! I stayed at my last job for so long because my co workers were and still are FAMILY. But I wasn’t happy. Anytime you practically have a panic attack in the parking lot right before your shift, it’s time to go! Good luck with your new job!
I had to break away from lake life to read this one. So much courage and such a bright future my friend!! Congratulations on the new job and making this decision. You never cease to amaze… xoxo
I am so happy for you Nellie! I think we all get that “it’s time to go” feeling at our jobs. I know this is a bittersweet time. God bless you as you start this exciting new position!
Such a poignant post! Change can be so hard but I am so excited for you. Wishing you all the best Nellie!
I wish you much success as you move forward. You know what I learned in life that you have to grow…if a job, friends, environment isn’t allowing you to do that its okay to move forward and feel good because if you aren’t growing then you are just alive without living.
I cannot wait to see what magic you make at your new job! Congrats !
I’m soooooo happy for you sis!! Can’t wait for you to SOAR in your new position!!
Sometimes we aren’t our best selves because it’s easier to just stay put. Courage will pay off 🙂
Cassidy is reading the Marie Kondo book right now! I think it’s changing things.
My longest job, other than blogging, was four years. And a LOT happened there. That’s how I met Cassidy and finally moved out of my parent’s place and made a ton of friends.
It will always be special to me because of that, but there’s no way I should still be there. (shudder)
Yay for you!
Oh, it sounds like the right time and the right move! I hope everything continues to work out!
Yay! I’m so happy for you! That is a huge step and not easy. I’ve left a job before because of a bad situation. It was hard because the money was good and the market was not consistent but ultimately you have to follow your heart. I’m so happy this worked out for you. I hope that your new position is everything you want and more! Best of luck Nellie! 🙂
Having just done the same thing after 10 years this brought back all the feels. I’m still grieving the loss of my old work family but moving into the next stage with courage and finding joy in my new situation, too. So proud of you!!
It must have been so tough to leave your job where you have grown so much. I think you always know when it’s time to say goodbye. Good luck on your upcoming endeavors!
Congrats on the new job! I’m sure you will excel and find more people to add to your family. 🙂
Wishing you the best in your new journey. It takes guts to do what you did. Kudos to you for taking control of your destiny!
Change is, while scary always a good thing! You’re such an inspiration for believing in yourself and following what you believed was right for you.
Congratulations and condolences to you Nellie. I know that it can be very difficult to leave a place where you’ve developed wonderful friendships. The important thing to remember is that the real friendships will continue past that employment. So glad to know you’re heading to an exciting new opportunity, too. Aim high, friend!
So happy for you love! congrats on this next journey of your life. I know it’s going to be amazing. I wish you nothing but continued success.
I did the same a couple of months ago. So liberating! Very nice to meet you (ever so briefly) last weekend! Hope there is a chance for a longer meeting in the near future 🙂