He said: “Bye Mommy”

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Remember when we talked about how I barely could manage sending my son to preschool?

Well, a few weeks later after that post, I got a letter saying that we had been rejected from all three of our local schools (including one three blocks away) due to overcrowding.

At first, I wasn’t terribly devastated.  The thing is, my oldest son has been in a daycare owned by my mother, in my mother’s home since he was 3 months old. Since my mother was recently retired, she had been teaching him how to read and write.

Unfortunately,  my mom still has a life. She takes care of my very ill grandmother and she has several businesses to oversee.

Also, all of the other 4 year olds were gone, so now my boy was around babies and learning nothing new.

We had to find a school quick. The city suggested that we get on waiting lists. We weren’t the only parents in this predicament,  the waitlists were pages and pages long for each school.

When I called around asking for availability I got so many “no’s” I could barely keep up. Weeks after all my friends’ children were settled into school, im still calling schools daily, the stress of it all was just too much.

Finally the Department of Education released a list of pre-k schools that might have availability.  One on that list was a school that wasn’t too far from my mom and at the very least in the same zip code as all of us.

I filled out the application and he was good to go.  Three weeks later after everyone else’s first day, here is his first day photo:

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When I introduced him to his teachers, he was so happy to go. He had been excited to go for a long time, but I thought there would be some sort of small struggle…a tear, little arms wrapped around my legs with the first day jitters.

My baby walked in, saw the kids, saw the books– looked back, and said:

“Bye mommy”

Not a hug, no kiss, he didn’t even take off his jacket! He was in Pre-k now.

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You guys already know that I love my city. However, living in NYC can have its drawbacks, there simply aren’t enough seats for every 4 year old and it is a shame. Crazy part is, the rat race for kindergarten beginning really soon. So much pressure!

I am so relieved my boy is in a great environment, fairly close to home.

I didn’t cry.



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Schnelle "Nellie" Acevedo is a busy mom of two young boys (3 and 6), she is an Account Manager by day and a self proclaimed fitness junkie by night. Brooklyn Active Mama is a body positive community that focuses on demonstrating to all women that you can always find time for fitness. A recent running addict, Nellie has completed 7 Half Marathons and is currently training for the New York City Marathon on 11/1/2015. Nellie also is a co-founder of the annual A Healthy U Conference which is a conference dedicated to helping women improve their mental, spiritual and physical health. Nellie is a licensed Zumba instructor in Brooklyn. You can find Nellie on TwitterInstagramFacebookPinterest, PeriscopeGoogle Plus.


  1. He is just adorable!! OMG how can you stand it?? I can’t believe you didn’t cry. I cried last year when my boys went to two days of pre-school and I cried this year when they switched to three!…maybe those were tears of joy but tears nonetheless!! I’m glad you were able to find a school. That is one drawback of living in the city but there are so many other good things. Good job mama!
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    • Thanks Allie :) I didn’t cry because I think I was in shock at how easy it was. I thought it might be tear for tear and he left me hanging, lol!

  2. Aww, my Emma is in her second year of pre-school and Lily just started her first year and I know I was definitely a bit weepy when they started up a few weeks ago, but both went in pretty easily and quickly, too. And it is such a shame that nowadays you have to book pre-school months or even a year in advance. But your boy looked so happy and is truly adorable!! :)
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  3. xoxoxoxox

    oh that face.
    Id have teared up.
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  4. He is ADORABLE! Love that you found him a spot…hope he has a fantastic year. Can’t imagine how stressful the kindergarten hunt will be! UGH!-Ashley
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  5. Awww so cute hope he is having a blast. Down here in GA only certain areas fill up quickly out here in the country the nice schools are quick to fill up and the not so nice schools normally have lots of space. I start early for my kids and normally sign them up around April of the year they are set to go because I don’t want no mess. My daughter was the 2nd that signed up and they only have 2 spots left by the time May hit. Now next year she goes to my sons school for kindergarten and I have to sign her up in January I already have my calendar set.
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  6. Awww!! I bet he is having so much fun! SInce Pookah is in a private school, I don’t have to worry about getting him in…yet. The rat race will begin after Kindergarten when we take him out of the private school to try to get him in a charter ( read free) school. THEN, the rat race for a private/charter middle school begins next. Sigh. It’s just the beginning!

  7. He is sooo ca-uute! So glad you were able to find him a good school, relatively close to you. I can’t believe it’s that difficult to get into school… I guess it’s the place to be…thus the crowd. In FL, there are a million pre-school programs and a lot of really good ones too. I’m one of the crazy mom that’s overpaying for a christian school, but the options are almost endless. then again, there are lots of homeschooling or virtual students.
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    • So jealous of your tons of programs! I would pay for a Christian school but my mortgage won’t allow it :( I am happy with this school though, so I will enjoy it until the kindergarten race begins!

  8. He is so cute!!! Hooray that you found a place that had availability and is still fairly close – and it seems he likes it!!!
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  9. Glad it worked out! I love how eager the little ones get so eager to go to school. We’re now into the beginning of week 4 and it’s still a little rough in the mornings.
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  10. How adorable! I think it’s a sign you are raising a great, well-adjusted son that he felt comfortable enough to just say “Bye Mommy” and go in with the other kids. NYC is crazy when it comes to schools for kids. I don’t know what we are doing to do when we eventually decide to have children.

  11. That’s huge!! I really felt your anxiety and I went through it last year. Kindergarten next year? Gulp. That’s pretty much a swear word in our house.
    Kudos to you all on this big change! He’s so gorgeous.
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  12. Wow, the fact that you have to work so hard to get your son in a school is mind boggling to me. I am so glad that he got in. What’s the alternative? No school at all??? He was a trooper! I’m sure with that spirit he won’t miss a beat being 3 weeks later than the rest of the crew! Go you for not crying, lol!
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  13. Ahhh. So glad it all worked out. And you are lucky he didn’t cry. Greedy Baby has been in Preschool since end of August. She just stopped crying about it last week. O_O
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  14. My son is only 8 months old, and just the thought of him going to school one day makes me want to cry, lol. You’re a strong mama! And what a handsome little guy!

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  15. Awe! I think at four that most of them are becoming so independent that you’re not likely to get a tear or a hesitation. I’d be more concerned if you did. I had no idea it was so hard to get your little one into school. I wouldn’t like that part.
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  16. That is crazy!! All the little things I take for granted! Love that he is so independent – shows how confident he is and confident to know that you are there for him even when he can’t see you!!
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  17. Awww…congratulations to your little one on finally getting into pre-k! He looks so happy. And I’m sure it’s a huge sigh of relief to see him embrace it so quickly and easily.
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  18. i am so happy it worked out.. i swear the whole school challenges in NYC will be the reason i leave here.. it took us awhile to find a preschool for my daughter.. every school either had a long waiting list for the next year, was a fortune, etc.. it’s such a peace of mind when you find a place ou like, although were thinking finding her a school that’s closer in..
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    • Girl I am so terrified of the kindergarten race!! I wish we had a network of mommies that could help us! We are so on our own out here. smh.

  19. lmbo! We worry about our kiddies and they just go right on about their business. I fuss over my daughter all the time. She just shoo’s me away and says, “Mommy I’m fine!” Hmph. Too much. He’s a big boy doing big boy things. Good for him…and you and hubs.
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  20. Can you believe we’re still on the waiting list to get Moo into Pre-k?! I hate that funding for education was cut which led to school closings and all this foolishness to get your kids into Pre-k. We were thinking about private school again because one I like has fall enrollment starting this month, but with this government shut down and the Mr working for the government, we’ll just have to keep holding our breaths to see if she gets in to the school she was already screened for.

    I’m definitely getting a head start on the kindergarten rat race. This stuff is no joke now.
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    • GIRL! You totally get it. I can’t believe that it is so hard. These children have a RIGHT to be in Prek! I hope Moo gets in!! I have to get on this kindergarten thing. I can’t go through this again next year it is too stressful.

  21. i am pretty sure i would have started bawling!
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  22. Perfect. I’m so glad he walked right in. And he looks adorable!
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  23. So cute! I remember those days. My daughter told me I could leave as soon as I dropped her off. Of course I had to fill out paperwork and told her so. Her response? Hurry mommy. She just wanted me out of there as quickly as possible! She was much more independent than the boys. They’re all so different!
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    • ha I love that she said hurry mommy. I was sooo expecting the opposite from my son. I was so shocked when he got super comfy so quickly!

  24. You held up well, Nellie! No tears, from either of you. He is a doll! So glad that he had a good start with your mom and was able to settle in well on his first day of school.
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  25. I know exactly what it is in Brooklyn. It’s such a hassle just for the basics like school placement…I’m glad you didn’t cry. These grow up way too fast
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  26. Excuse my lateness…He’s a big boy now! Don’t you hate when that happens?! But at least you know he’ll be just fine it hurts more when they cry. I HATE the Kindergarten rat race of NYC, it feels like undergrad all over again. WHY am I applying for financial aid for Kindergarten?? lol Good Luck!
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    • wait there is financial aid for Kindergarten?! dang. You need to educate me girl!! I am so brand new to all of this!

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