Can you believe it’s been a little over a month since I gave birth? I can barely believe it myself. After 10 months being pregnant, I am still
slowly transitioning into being a mom of three. Still learning, still adjusting with many wins (and losses!) along the way. Things have been a bit more hectic than I could have ever imagined, but I am not sure I could have it any other way.
Instead of being split in two, you are now split in 3
Adding a newborn to the mix means that the regular crazy doesn’t stop, it just gets amplified. I’ve been really lucky over the past month because my husband took a month of the new paternity leave that was implemented this year. He has been able to help with homework, pick up the kids and be a great pair of extra hands.
However, now it’s just me…on my own…till he gets home from work.
This means that I’m feeding the baby while assisting with homework, teaching the kids how to be more independent with meals and snacks, while asking their assistance with baby related things. It also means that I will have to serve the needs of three kids.
“No more one on one defense, it’s more of a zone defense”
The kids are now outnumbering US. If there is something insane happening with my (special needs) eldest child then I know I need to temporarily direct all my energy over to him. I need to make sure that the other two are secure and that HE is taken care of and secure in the moment. The same goes for my middle child that needs laughter and playtime from his mom. He loves to dance, play games and hang out–that’s his love language. I have to be super aware of each child’s needs and love language.
Babysitting requests just got way more complicated
It’s so hard to ask my main babysitter (my mom) to take care of 3 entire kids. OMG. It was hard enough with the boys alone–but with the boys AND a newborn? Even I have a heart. 🙂
I WILL have to ask her eventually because I make part of my income by attending events, but the requests to her will be few and far between.
The newborn slowdown
With both of my boys I wanted them to hit all of their milestones right away, I painstakingly waited for them to smile, rollover, sit up, etc. Now I have slowed all the way down and I am enjoying every moment with this girl. The easy moments, the hard ones. The snuggles and the stares. Her very little feet and hands and watching her watch her siblings in curiosity. It is so easy to look forward but with her, I stay present in a way that I never did with her brothers.
This life is nuts.
I can admit that I wouldn’t have it any other way. I finally have the daughter I have always wanted and she fits into what we have built quite perfectly. It’s not easy at all, like AT ALL. Day by day, one moment at a time, things will gel. In the meantime, pray for a sista.