Bullying in Kindergarten?
One of the hardest parts about being a full time working mommy outside the home was that I was unable to make a lot of “mommy” friends in my son’s preschool. Since he had to be at school a 9am, a lot of the mommies became friends with my husband or my mother.
Thankfully all of that changed when so many of the preschool parents showed up for my youngest sons 2nd birthday in the snowstorm. One of the mommies I fell in love with instantly, she was one of the sweetest purest spirits I had ever met and her daughter and my son had the best friendship. Finally, I have a mommy friend. You guys have no idea how hard this is when you are not involved in the pick up/drop off/daytime activities because you work full time.
I randomly ran into her and her daughter last week and she didn’t have her normal happy face on. We were standing in a very busy commuter hub with hundreds of rush hour commuters hustling around us but something told me to stop and see what’s up because she is never like this.
She confided in me that her daughter was being bullied in school and it was tearing her apart. Another child had been taking her snacks at snack time.
No one wants their child to be bullied. As she stood there crying in frustration I had to pull her into a hug and held back my own tears because I felt every single bit of her pain. She had been in contact with the teacher multiple times and was beginning to feel helpless. She gives all she has to her daughter and like the rest of us, she wants her child to be happy in kindergarten.
I find it so difficult to really accept that there is a bullying culture in Kindergarten. 5 year olds should be getting used to being in school, social skills, numbers, writing, etc. I personally was bullied in the second grade for 6 months. There was a girl who was in my class but physically much bigger than me that stole my snack every single day. I didn’t tell my mom because somehow she had convinced that if I did my mom wouldn’t believe me. I had no idea that it was wrong, so it continued to happen. It wasn’t until I was teen did I recognize it as bullying.
I told her that she had to be relentless with the teachers until it stopped. If that meant she had to show up everyday at snack time to make sure that it doesn’t happen then so be it. She does have a small relationship with the parent of the bully but she doesn’t feel comfortable with the confrontation.