While I am away, I requested my favorite mom+fitness bloggers to come and share their amazing knowledge with you! Today I start off with one of the reasons I run–Carly from Fine Fit Day. I have loved her blog since forever and I am SO excited for you guys to read what she has put together for you today. It really had me thinking! Enjoy.
While Nellie’s away giving her boys the surprise trip of a lifetime (I hope video is involved when they tell those cuties where they’re going!) she asked me to guest post for her. I love Nellie’s blog, so I was excited and honored to be asked!
I knew immediately what I wanted to write about. This quote by John Bingham was something I posted on my Facebook page and Nellie joked that it was like I came up with this just for her.
At first, it reads just like any other motivational quote: Believe you can and you will. But it’s that last sentence that really resonates: “Don’t let worn-out beliefs stop you from moving beyond yourself.” It’s one thing to work at believing in yourself and being positive about your abilities, but those worn-out beliefs are harder to get past.
What’s a worn-out belief? It’s something you’ve said so often to yourself – or others – that it’s become part of who you are. It’s worn-out because you’ve used it so much it’s as well-worn as your favorite pair of jeans. It’s worn-out because it belongs to the mindset of someone who isn’t doing and accomplishing what they hoped they would. it’s worn-out because it doesn’t have to be true.
As a personal trainer, I’m privy to hearing a lot of people’s worn-out beliefs of their own ability and worth. Things like,
I’m just not strong enough.
I can’t do that.
I’ll never be good enough to do that.
I don’t even think the people saying these kinds of things about themselves even notice anymore how damaging those kinds of statements can be. What we say about ourselves can easily become our truth – but if it’s based on a worn-out belief of what we can and will and are able to do, then it’s a false truth, one that will only hold you back.
Even when you’re a competitive, driven, type-A kind of person (and yes, I’m guilty as charged), you can still have these limiting negative beliefs holding you back. I’ve been running and racing for years and all my PRs were back in my early thirties. It was frustrating to not be hitting the paces I was accustomed to for a year or two and then I got pregnant and deliberately slowed down. Post-pregnancy, I eased back into running and racing, content (or so I believed) with hitting what I called “Postpartum PRs”. All the while, I was running a series on my blog called Fit Mama Friday (you may remember seeing Nellie featured). After many interviews with some amazing fit mamas who were accomplishing whatever they set their minds to, it occurred to me that I didn’t have to go for Postpartum PRs – I could just commit and believe in myself and train to run my best times. Ever.
So I did. And I did.
And it wasn’t because I was magically fitter. It wasn’t because I tried some new, amazing way of training. It was – at the heart of it – because I discarded those worn-out beliefs that I could never be as fast as I was when I was 30 or 31; pre-kids; with all the time in the world. I just didn’t believe that anymore. I believed I could do whatever I put my mind to. It was an amazing revelation and one I hope many people will experience.
So, I’ll ask you – what are your worn-out beliefs?
What are you telling yourself that’s holding you back?
And when will you let go and let yourself be more?
Carly Pizzani is a mama to a rampaging toddler, a personal trainer, the author of the fitness blog Fine Fit Day, a freelance writer, and an ex-pat Aussie living in Brooklyn. She loves running, lifting weights, yoga, spin class, dancing with her son — basically anything active. Keeping mamas (and mamas-to-be) fit, healthy and motivated is what she loves most about her job. You can connect with Carly on Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest, and Instagram.