Why You Should Always Trust Your Mommy Gut.

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This is one of the hardest posts I have ever written since I began blogging almost 3 years ago. I need to tell this story, even if it helps one mother.

This is my story. I never really thought it could happen to me, but it did and I wanted to share this with you all.

My Mother’s Day started normal enough, I volunteered all three services at church and I even got a corsage as a gift for simply being a mommy.

I rushed home because we were having dinner at my grandmothers house with my family. When we got there we all graced the table and began to eat.

I didn’t take a plate for myself because I have this rule that the children eat first then I am allowed to eat. I fed the youngest while my mom helped feed the oldest and in 10 minutes they were playing and causing havoc like they normally do.

When I sat down to eat I saw the boys in my grandmothers room. I was the only one that had them in my vision. They were staring out the window just like they do when they are at home. They absolutely love to watch the cars go by and squeal lately when the ice cream truck comes around.

I took another bite.

When I looked up again I saw my 5 year old with three quarters of his body outside the window.

We were on the top floor of a 2 story building.

Nothing but concrete below.

My brain reacted much quicker than my heart. I screamed “Oh my God, Joshua!” as I dropped my food and took off running towards him.

He heard my voice and climbed back inside calmly. There was no doubt that he had every single intention of climbing all the way out.

I couldn’t see that the window was wide open from where I was sitting. It looked closed. If I had even the slightest inkling…I would have shut it right away.

When I got to the room he ran into the living room to go back and be with family. I stood in my grandmothers room shaking uncontrollably and crying from the depths of my soul.

I couldn’t believe that my son almost became a statistic, I couldn’t believe that he was so close to it all being over or at least very close to over.

Our God is an amazing God. I fell to my knees and just worshiped because that story–my story could have gone another way. The angels protected my child, my gut kept my eyes on them at the right moment to call his name.

We hear stories like this all the time in NYC. Babies falling out of buildings, some end up okay, most don’t. So many people are quick to judge the mother in these situations. I am here to say I almost became one of those mothers on Mother’s Day.

As the vision of climbing out has stayed with me since, replaying every 5 minutes. I am here to say trust your gut. Listen to it. Especially when it comes to your kids. If something feels off–investigate. Better safe than sorry.

Hours later when I was able to pull myself together, I asked him, why? What on earth was he doing?

He said that my youngest had taken my lipstick and thrown it outside. He just wanted to get it for me.

It was just that simple.

And that is how quickly life can change. Trust your gut, it’s crucial and really could mean the difference between life and death.

It was a regular day at grandmas house.

Until it wasn’t. 

I wanted to post this because it is hard to be a mom, it is tough to keep up with these kids. I share my story because I am NOT a perfect mom and I came *thisclose* to disaster. Take caution. When visiting other homes that normally don’t have children in them check everything! There could be candles, sharp objects…open windows…these kids seem to sense the danger and go right towards it! Try to be mindful so that you can never be in my position. We have been to grandmas house many many many times, but never ever has that window been open. Lesson learned.

Have your kids ever scared you to death? I would love to hear the story.

 

Nellie

Nellie

Mommy. Fitness Addict. Socialite.
Schnelle "Nellie" Acevedo is a busy mom of two young boys (2 and 5), she is a career woman by day and a self proclaimed fitness junkie by night. Brooklyn Active Mama is  a positive community that focuses on demonstrating to all women that you can always find time for fitness. She features a Weekly Wednesday Workout and a Friday Fitness Check-in series where she encourages her readers to check in and remain accountable for their fitness and nutrition goals weekly. Nellie also is a co-founder of the annual A Healthy U Conference which is a conference dedicated to helping women improve their mental, spiritual and physical health. In addition to getting in the gym 5 times weekly, Nellie is a licensed Zumba instructor in Brooklyn. Since beginning to blog Nellie has lost 27lbs (and counting)! You can find Nellie on TwitterInstagramFacebookPinterest, & Google Plus.
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Comments

  1. I am so glad that you managed to get him back in quickly. My oldest did a scare by almost running into traffic on a busy street when he was three. I caught him just in time when he put one foot off the curb. I totally understand the scare!
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  2. Oh Nellie! I’m so sorry you had to go though that but SO glad it turned out the way it did!! I can’t imagine it. You’re so right about how things can change in an instant. When we went to Disney last year, we lost Miles at Animal Kingdom. It’s a long, complicated story but he was LOST for about 2 minutes. Just before I went into complete and total panic mode – he appeared. I cried and shook, as you did. There is no scarier feeling on the planet! BIG HUG and kiss to you and your family.
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  3. OH MY LORD!!!! I have chills. Yes, I have been there. My son used to think it was funny to run away from me and misbehave in parking lots. Oh, Motherhood…somehow we are all going to survive but nobody said it was going to be pretty. I am glad your son is ok.
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  4. Thank God you were right there! Lately there have been so many tragic stories about kids including the little boy Ryan who waa killed by a truck playing in the front yard. My heart breaks for stories like that and I pray protection over my daughter constantly. When she was 1 she put a nail in her mouth (my husband was hanging pictures and put it down on the coffee table on her level). Someone else at our apartment saw and scooped it out of her mouth. The thought of what could’ve happened still haunts me…Your advice to check people’s homes when visiting is spot on – especially for gun safety too.
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  5. Omg, Nellie, I am so glad you did trust your gut and you are right that things like this can truly happen to all of us in the blink of an eye. Just so very scary and I do think you are also right about not only indeed trusting your gut, but god giving you the foresight to look up in the moment you did. Honestly, just happy it ended the way it did and not any other way.
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  6. I’ve had many a scary moments with my son. Kids do things innocently but sometimes it can lead to a dangerous situation. Glad you were able to catch an action before it lead to disaster and your kids are safe.

  7. Thank God you were right there. Kids are so quick and do things for others with a pure heart. I have had some scary situations which is one reason I am afraid to take both of my kids somewhere with me I always fear I can’t watch both at the same time. Thanking God for giving you eyes and quick reactions.
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  8. OMG! So glad you were paying attention!! My boys have scared me a few times when crossing the street and they decide that’s a good time to stop and look around!
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  9. I’m not a mommy, however, I know that I always need to listen to my gut!! And for some reason, I haven’t REALLY been doing that lately. He’s there, talking to me on the regular… But right now, my heart is beating him out and it’s driving me bananas!
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  10. Thank you for opening up and posting this. You’re right, none of us are perfect mothers. So many of us are quick to judge mothers that aren’t so lucky. We have all had close calls, because it is impossible to keep an eye on our adventurous children every second. But keeping in line with our gut feelings sure seem to help a lot. Keep trustin’ your gut, momma. <3
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  11. omg, I almost threw up just now. Holy crap. I’m so glad everyone is okay. I cannot imagine. Whew. I’m so glad you felt it and jumped forward. Loudly. It’s so true – so many people forget so many things – it makes me understand why certain things leave me anxious or “paranoid” in some ways. Thank G-d all is okay. Sending hugs.
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  12. Sending hugs your way! Gosh… I am not a mommy, but I used to be nanny for my neighbors 3 kids growing up. 3, 7, and 10…. for 2 summers in a row. All it takes is 1 split second for something to happen, but God was on your side- and nothing happened to your babies. xo You know your kids better than anyone else, so that’s why your gut kicked in. Mommys can sense stuff! :)
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  13. So scary!! I’m glad that you reacted so quickly and had him stop. I hope that your heart rate has finally slowed down and that you have been able to let him know that he should never try to climb out a window like that for any reason.
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    • Absolutely Kim, today (4 days later!) is the first day that I am actually starting to feel normal again. I told him over and over, he didn’t know I cried but when I told him that he was very apologetic and he promised to never to do it again.

  14. In the words of my 4 yr old “My God is Awesome”. Amazing is the only word I can use to describe Mommy Powers.

  15. Oh my gosh Nellie! That is so terrifying. I am so glad you saw him in time but I can;t even imagine that feeling of coming so close to something so horrific. I think the windows in our building are so unsafe and it scares the heck out of me! Glad your family is ok.
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  16. Nellie, I am so glad that you were there, and you trusted your gut! I have enough scary stories right here in my home. It’s not joke! Kids do things innocently enough, but we know how things could end in disaster! Thank God, God was watching over your children, and gave you the instincts to go and check on him.
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  17. Oh Nellie. Thank God you were there. That must have been the scariest moment ever. My heart dropped when I was reading it. It does only take a split second and kids do things without thinking. I’m glad he’s ok and I’m thinking of you. Sending a virtual hug, my friend!
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  18. XOXOXOXOXOX
    totally different
    entirely the same
    I had an experience at a pool which shook me to my core as well.

    xo
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  19. I remember being in a situation or two like that when I was a kid, and I am still chilled by my mom’s reaction.
    I’m SO glad you’re all ok! So scary. I remember Eric Clapton’s son passed away that way. So swiftly. And he’s one of my idols and I can’t help but think about it a lot when I’m at Cassidy’s cousin’s five story apartment in Central Park West.
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    • I can imagine you would, I would too! I feel anxious in ALL tall buildings when it comes to the boys, but my grandmas house is my former home so the alertness wasn’t the same.

  20. Oh no! I can’t imagine how frightening that would be. I’m so glad that everything turned out okay. Have you ever heard the saying “when it’s too quiet”? I’ve found that particularly applies with little ones. Again, I’m grateful that your son is okay.
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  21. My heart jumped out of my chest reading this. Thank God for your instinct. Seriously, this post left me speechless.
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  22. Oh Nellie! I didn’t expect to read this story. I couldn’t wait to read this post because I can remember in one of your comments on my blog you told me to trust my gut. :) I’m so glad that your son is ok. It honestly makes me so annoyed when people judge a person from hearing about what happened to them on the news, especially something like this. Accidents do happen. I’m so happy it didn’t happen to you. Our Creator is merciful and wonderful. Such great advice you gave when going to another house or location with our children. :)
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    • Exactly Right Brittnei! Accidents happen every day and I am so happy I was able to catch him in time…such a blessing that I am not taking for granted.

  23. I just want to hug you right now. I am so glad he is okay. So scary! Thank God indeed. Love you my friend! xoxo
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  24. Nellie, so sorry, I can only imagine the range of emotions you went through. as we know being a mom is no easy task and you have to heave ears and eyes of an eagle to watch and protect our kids. you said though, the best gift god has given us as women among many is the gift of our gut. we just have use it and listen to it.. thankful that all is well.
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  25. Thank God that your son was okay. I’m so glad that you went with your inner instinct because I was always told that you should always listen to it, no matter what.

  26. OMG Nellie, good job reacting so quickly and trusting your mom’s instinct. What a scary moment you had there, I thank God that your boy is safe and you are over this scary episode. This post gave me chills and made me want to hug my boys extra tight tonight.
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  27. Wow! Thank God you were watching him. I couldn’t even imagine what could have happened if you weren’t, and on Mother’s Day. That day would have never been the same. I’m happy you both are okay.

  28. Oh my I am so happy to read that he was safe, that would have been an awful way to spend future mother’s days with that memory. I’m glad that the angels were watching over him. My mother lost one of her younger brothers that way from an LES apt. on the 8th floor. Horrible accidents like these happen all too often.. continued blessings and thank you for sharing your story
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