Iyanla Vanzant has always been one of my favorites. If you are unfamiliar with her work, she is a very popular life coach and all around auntie in my head and the host of the popular show Fix My Life on OWN. I have been a fan girl of Iyanla for a REALLY long time and I’ve never missed an episode of her show. She is currently on tour promoting her book “Get Over It” and she made a stop at Kings Theatre in Brooklyn so I purchased a solo ticket to see her for the first time in person.
The entire theater was packed to the brim, and we even got a surprise performance from R&B Star Ledisi! Auntie Iyanla finally came out and she was SO full of energy. She had a full band behind her, was dressed to the nines, and got us SO excited just to be in her presence. I knew right then that I was in the right place.
Born and raised in Brooklyn, she shared her story of being born in a taxi, raised by an alcoholic, sexually abused at a young age, and so much more. I’m not sure how I didn’t know so much of her story but I was completely blown away by what she has been through. She spoke a lot about how much work she had to do to get through all of her struggles.
She shared a workbook with us that allowed us to take detailed notes. There were some key teachings that stood out to me and I’m excited to share them with you today!
We Think 70,000 to 80,000 Thoughts Per Day
Can you imagine? We only retain about 200-300 of them. Why is this important? Because thoughts are energy and energy cannot be destroyed–only transformed. She mentioned that we could still be living with thoughts that manifested when we were children. It’s so important to not only be AWARE of your thought pattern but how you manage it, because it defines pretty much everything in your life.
This one was particularly impactful for me and caused tears to fall from my eyeballs (this happened a whole lot during the show) because lately I’ve been in a funk, telling myself that I can’t do this because xyz, or I’d never be successful at an idea because of some insane reason. I tend to have conversations with myself that end up talking me out of my dreams and I need to axe that, immediately.
Change the way you talk to yourself
I definitely know that I am guilty of starting sentences off with “I can’t” “I won’t” “I Itried” “But what if” I am FAMOUS for saying these things. I have to reframe my thinking if I really want to achieve my dreams and make things happen around here.
Setting intentions is key
“A lot of you aren’t getting what you pray for because you are not being clear” Being intentional can mean many things… a vision board, a list of things you want to manifest, saying mantras, asking the universe for specific things–whether you do one or all, setting intentions will get you there much faster. I don’t have a rhyme or reason on how it works but it just does.
Clear up old issues
It’s hard to move forward when you have so many things in your past holding you back. This looks different for every person, but when there is work that needs to be done, you HAVE TO DO IT.
The distinction between living and dying is breath
Several times during the show Auntie Iyanla made us practice our deep breathing. It helped me to focus on how much better I felt after some timely deep breaths. How many times are we just running from place to place without taking the time to breathe? It can be easily forgotten, and it is so helpful to relax us and clear our minds for whatever we are about to accomplish. This one was my biggest takeaway and I’ve been consciously breathing ever since.
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I learned so much and I cried a lot of tears, for myself and for the brave souls that brought up their own personal issues with the entire theater. It was a cleansing experience and I left loving Auntie Iyanla even more than I ever did. I plan on reading the book and really beginning to do the hard work.
Have you ever watched Iyanla’s Fix My Life show? Have you ever bought a solo ticket to a local show for one of your favs?