A few months ago when I attended BlogHer, I visited a booth by the band The Mrs. who debuted a song called “I’m enough”. The song is amazing, makes you feel good and I really couldn’t have thought of a better place to premiere it than with 3000+ plus blogging women.
Their booth had a fun twist. There was a talking mirror. I wasn’t sure if it was really worth my time. I really didn’t know what this talking mirror was going to tell me but I saw in the twitter stream for #blogher14 that the mirror was life changing. I rolled my eyes in skepticism and went to check it out anyway to see what all the hype was about.
When I got to the mirror, I realized that there was a live person talking to me through my headphones. She could see me but I could not see her. She immediately told me to smile and keep smiling. I don’t know if any of you have ever done this but it is not the easiest thing to look at your smiling self in the mirror, without even breaking eye contact.
She started telling me how beautiful and strong I was, and this hit me at my core because although I believed it, sometimes–I don’t. She then asked me about my children and I told her I had 2 boys, she then told me how much they loved and appreciated everything I did for them. She told me that they thought I was the most beautiful woman in the world, and that their lives centered around me. I had never thought about being the center of anyone’s world but for some reason, this mystery woman with the soothing voice made me look at my boys differently.
My boys love me, with a fierceness that I have never ever seen a child love their parents. I have always known this, of course, but something about the voice in the headphones changed things for me. It was only then that I realized that my eldest son draws pictures of me and me only, multiple times, daily for a reason. With different hairdos and colors, and in different settings. When he finishes, he gives it to me as his gift, his way of thanking me for being his mommy.
Every morning, after I wake up and get dressed my 2 year old comes to me and says “Mommy, you look boodeeful“, a habit he picked up from his older brother that never ever gets old.
I only have boy children. The way they both look at me makes my heart skip a beat. I always saw myself having girl spawn but somehow God had a different plan for me. It may have even taken a stranger with a soothing voice to make me pay close attention to it, but now that I have, I appreciate it more than ever.
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This made me tear up! It’s so true, all of it. When I found out I was having not one, but TWO boys, I was disappointed that there wasn’t at least one girl in my belly but, countless moms said to me “Boys are great and they LOVE their mothers.” It turned out to be amazingly true! And, of course, I’m so happy I have two healthy boys and there is a total love fest happening here on a daily basis!! Loved this post and love that mirror!
Yes, I was SURE my youngest was a girl, totally different pregnancy all of it…and bam! another boy!! I realize now that I wouldn’t have it any other way. I live for the love fests.
OMG that is so sweet! I love it! I too have boys and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I do however miss them when they were your boys’ age. You are a very lucky woman! Listen to the mirror because she was right!
Thanks Kris! I will enjoy them now as much as I can!
Aww, totally made me more thankful for what I got as I was reading and as crazy as things get around here, my two also idolize and adore me. So, truly thank for this, too 😉
being a mom is such a gift!
Boys are so cool they stay to themselves and they love their mamas. I remember when I was sick a few weeks ago my son came and tucked me in and sat on the floor reading to me. My daughter …who you would think would be motherly…kept saying mom get up you gotta do better.
That is so sweet that Dman did that! and LOL at your daughter sounds like you LOL
Beautiful post! I’m excited to get to experience raising a boy. Growing up with two younger sisters and a brother I was always fascinated by how different boys are. I’m sure I got my work cut out for me but I know I’m capable!
You are most certainly capable!! You are going to love it. They are rambunctious but their loyalty and admiration kind of makes up for all the crazy! 🙂
ooh, how beautiful – thanks for sharing as I miss it when my sons were young and I was the most important lady in their lives!! Happy Thankful Thursday!
I am going to enjoy it for as long as I can!
So sweet! I don’t know how different a girl child will be because she’s still a baby now, but I was just thinking the other day of how sweet my son’s love for me is. That child love is just so raw, pure, powerful and unconditional. It’s pretty amazing – especially when you feel like you have no clue what you are doing raising them. 🙂
Keya, A sons love for his mom is unmatched. And yes, most days I have no clue what I’m doing but they are okay and that is all that matters 🙂
Nellie! This post seriously made me get teary! You have such beautiful and loving children. I can’t wait to experience all of these things for myself. What an amazing post and so so so true!
You will! and in justa few short weeks you will know a love you have NEVER known before, I am so excited for you to experience this crazy thing called motherhood!
I loved reading this because I have 2 boys also and some days I feel very unworthy of their love yet they love me anyway!!! It’s an incredible thing the bond between a mother and her son(s)!!!
I think I would tear up at that mirror! I have such bad self esteem that I only notice when my kids shun me, which happens with kids! I don’t even notice that Des calls for me in the morning sometimes. Or how grateful Scarlet was when I zoomed over to pick her up from school today after getting a phone call from the nurse that she was sick.
I was really in my feelings afterwards, I couldn’t even talk to anyone. It is such an overwhelming experience being superheroes to our kids and have them recognize us for it…
Nellie, your boys sound like the sweetest things ever. To have your littlest one call you “boo-dee-ful” every day must just melt your heart. What a way to start the day! Those picture gifts are awesome too, aren’t they? That booth sounds like it must have been amazing. So glad you took the chance and went in!
thanks Leslie! There is nothing more that I look forward to than morning hugs and evening hugs when I get home!
Beautiful post! It’s true. Our children love us to no end. Just when I think I’m not doing enough, being enough, my kids come out of no where and tackle hug me to the ground. Painful at times, but you know what they say…:-) I know I wouldn’t have it any other way.