Remember when Chapelle Show was the best thing on TV? I mean, it is still one of the funniest (if not the best ever) comedy sketch shows ever. The ratings were phenomenal for Comedy Central and we all simply couldn’t get enough.
So when Dave said that he will no longer be doing the show after season 2, we we all flabbergasted. What do you mean he was cancelling the show?! Was he going to another network? The surely couldn’t be the END…right?
It was the end. When asked why, he simply referred to the fact that he didn’t want to feed into the crazy anymore (my words, not his). He had taken a step back and realized that he would step away from the success, the money and the notoriety to save his own soul.
I had a moment just like this one.
As you all know, I go to a lot of events in NYC. My central work location (and an amazing team of folks that support me) allow me to gallivant around the city learning about different products and places. Just one year ago I got invited to my first blogger event and ever since I have been hooked.
Blogger events in NYC can be hit or miss. Some brands treat you like a star, others…not so much. The blogging event culture can also get pretty intense at times. I have already talked about the SHADE I have received as a then new blogger coming into the game. (I have received 90% less shade since that post so either everyone read it or I have earned my keep in this NYC blogger scene).
One thing I began to notice is the competition factor. It became a weird social vibe of “Did you get an invite to soandso’s Event?” and not in a very nice way. All of a sudden you had to prove who you were by which brands were courting you. The truth is, sometimes you are on a PR list and sometimes you are not. Sometimes you are handpicked for certain events and sometimes you just happen to be in the right place at the right time.
Since attending my first blogger event, it has been a tornado of invitations. Being a event girl by nature and before this blog started, I have enjoyed the ride. I actually love events *even if there is no swag attached*. Sometimes the swag is incredible, but sometimes, there isn’t any and the information is incredible. I love both types of events. Although I am not getting *paid* in swag, I enjoy the reporting/media like function of blogging and who knows maybe I will become a professional one day. I’ve noticed lately that certain bloggers are obnoxiously bragging about certain events, swag while simultaneously excluding and isolating newer bloggers who haven’t gotten invitations to these types of events yet. Not only is it intentional but it is completely mean as well.
Currently NYC bloggers are entering an insane season of events, from Back to School to New York Fashion Week, the events will be plenty. What I have noticed lately is that there is a certain mean girl vibe going around, there are folks turning up their noses at people who aren’t invited to events…I mean…really?
I am certainly blessed to have 2-3 girls in this NYC
mom Blogger circle that I trust completely and share everything with and visa versa. In this tornado of events, I will not be trying to one up the next girl–nor will I care if someone gets an invitation to something and I didn’t. This blog is a important slice of my life but it is NOT the whole pie. My decision on whether or not to attend an event won’t be based on the brand, or the swag, it will be based on the following questions: can this bring something of value to my readers? Would this event entertain my children? Does this fit into the schedule with everything else in our lives? Do I have a babysitter? Does this fit in with my work schedule? If the answer to all of those questions are yes then I will be present. No longer will I jump into the rat race for an event…it simply isn’t that serious.
Don’t get me wrong, it is a crazy fun problem to have, however, let the record show that I am not here for these mind games!
Thank you for entertaining my rant!