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5 Strategies To Stop Body Shaming…Yourself

by Nellie

It happens to the best of us, we start comparing our bodies to everyone else and before you know it we are body shaming ourselves and simply being mean. Here is how to stop body shaming.

There has been so much in the news lately about fat shaming and body shaming of celebrities. Some of the things that people with a platform are saying are just unacceptable.

I get all crazy when I hear that people are talking about my favorite singers (such as Pink or Kelly Clarkson *WHO JUST HAD A BABY*) saying that they are not thin enough for their liking and that they should do something about it.

It makes me want to hurt somebody.

When I heard these comments I was beside myself in anger but then I realized that I body shame myself. I’m guilty of saying some not so nice things about myself to the mirror, to my husband, to my best friend.

I realized that I needed to do better, BE better to myself. Most days I am in love with my body and what it can do, other days though–I’m just downright mean. Here are some strategies that I have incorporated to help me love my body full time and stop body shaming the one that matters the most.

5 Strategies To Stop Body Shaming…Yourself

Stop Comparing:

This is a big one. This one I struggle with on a daily basis. In this age of Social Media where all we do is post our accomplishments–it’s hard not to. I could be a fantastic Zumba Instructor but when I see other instructors with 50-60 people in their class I might feel a certain way.

It almost goes against human nature to not compare but you (we) can’t let comparison drive us crazy. It’s so easy to compare your mom skills, career skills, athletic skills, writing skills–life skills.

However, it must be a daily practice to stop the comparison monster in its tracks by appreciating all that you have and all that you can do.

Stop Focusing On The Scale:

I have mentioned many times that I am not a fan of the scale–I really am a fan of how clothes fit and how a person looks.

The number on the scale is just that–a number. If you need to know where you are starting then great, go for it, but don’t let it be the end all and be all.

Stop Pinching Yourself: I know I am definitely guilty of grabbing my tummy, or my thighs or wherever else I thought didn’t look like how I want it to. Until I realized we can’t (all) have the perfect body.

There are certain parts of my body that may never look like the way I want it to due to genetics and all that jazz and pinching those body parts only contorts and feeds the monster that is body shaming.

Stop Depending on a Certain Size:

I went shopping for spring and realized that I was only looking at a certain size, I’d get frustrated if they didn’t have a style in my size and rejoice when they did.

I realized pretty quickly that I was so locked into a certain number that I could be giving up great clothing because it was one size up.

I picked up several sizes some larger, some smaller and when I went into the fitting room they all fit perfectly and I was a very happy with my selections. Which leads me into my next point…

Stop Buying Clothes that are not right for Your Body:

I know there have been so many times I have walked past a shop that has a beautiful dress on a mannequin and I get that all too familiar feeling of MUST get that dress!

Sometimes I try it on and sometimes it perfect, other times–not so much. We all have amazing items in our closet that simply don’t fit right or don’t make us feel super beautiful — we shouldn’t settle for anything less than clothes that FIT properly AND make us feel beautiful.

One should never feel uncomfortable in the clothing they have purchased for themselves.

What would you add to the list? Can you identify with any of these ways to stop body shaming?

 

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9 comments

Janine Huldie April 21, 2015 - 5:45 am

What great tips and I agree with all, especially not to compare as this one I can help but do to myself too often by the way.

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Kristina Walters April 21, 2015 - 5:58 am

I couldn’t agree with you more! I do this to myself all of the time. How can we expect others to change if we don’t start with ourselves!

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Britt April 21, 2015 - 8:50 am

I think comparison is huge. It is so hard not to compare but it really just makes you miserable.

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Allie April 21, 2015 - 12:44 pm

OMG yes to the last one about buying the right clothes! I started buying only things I truly feel comfortable in and, after 40 years of this body, I know by now what looks good and what doesn’t. Sometimes it’s really hard to have an “athletic” body type because a lot of clothes just do not fit right with muscles!!

PS – I too want to hurt somebody when they diss Pink and Kelly like that!

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Leslie April 21, 2015 - 1:25 pm

I think we’re all guilty of self-shaming. There are so many images out there about what we “should” look like, but every body is so different. You hit it right with your last recommendation. Different companies all use different sizing, so we can’t expect to wear the same size every single time.

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Kim April 21, 2015 - 2:53 pm

Great tips!! I hate that celebrities are made to feel less worthy when their bodies don’t fit a certain image. It just adds to the trickle down effect and the problems that so many girls (and even guys) deal with in trying to achieve an unrealistic body. We all have different body styles so there is no way that one style is the “perfect” one.

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Kita April 22, 2015 - 12:36 am

Get out of my head! I had some pictures up over the weekend that I hated and I said to myself you are fat fat fat all weekend long. I agree about the clothes to fit which is a huge problem. I know it’s why I wear sweats so much I gave up on trying to find things that look good especially since I am not a fashionista

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Tamara April 23, 2015 - 8:33 pm

About the sizes, not to mention that all companies run differently so you can be a 4 in one brand and an 8 in another!
I love these tips. It all starts with self, doesn’t it? Self and kindness.

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Rea April 26, 2015 - 11:22 pm

AGREE!!! This muffin top of mine is not that obvious but hey, I’m a mother and that’s more than enough!

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