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Every Woman’s Body is “REAL” Curvy or Not

by Nellie

The Women Of The Dove Beauty Campaign

I was listening to a conversation with two women who were discussing a plus sized actress. They were so excited about the fact that this actress would be getting a role in a movie because there was finally a person that looked like them in the movies.

I was in total agreement until one of the ladies mentioned that she was so happy that they casted a โ€œrealโ€ woman for the role. The way she used the word real rubbed me the wrong way but I didn’t really think about it any further.

I realized later on that the reason why her statement bothered me so much because the statement implied that a person thinner than her is somehow fake. Or even worse, unattractive.

Let’s just be clear here folks every single woman is real. We all have flesh, blood and reproductive organs. We all have to fight the good fight of doing a job twice as hard as a man and somehow yet receiving half as much credit. Calling someone who has more weight on their body real only serves as a divider. That is the last thing we need with the likes of Trump and other women bashers already doing a great job trying to divide us.

Let me be clear, we absolutely need diversity on the big and small screens when it comes to body image. We have little girls that need to see amazing role models and women that look like them doing incredible things. This is a fact. The best thing that we can do is accept everyone and not shun them or disparage them because they don’t look like you.

We need to change our language, once we change our language we change the language of the media. We begin to say no to the stereotypes. In the last 20 years we have made great strides in starting to see more diverse images in media. Barbie is now curvy with kinky hair. We have an African American director Barbie. This is HUGE and very much needed. I was never a Barbie girl but I guarantee you if I had these sort of choices available I’d be a complete fan.

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With all these revolutionary things happening it’s imperative that we become conscious of our language. We should be having supportive conversations that bring us closer and doesn’t isolate a group by their weight, color and especially their gender.

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What are your thoughts on the issue? Is calling a woman real because she is curvy wrong or right?

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CARLA February 1, 2016 - 5:47 am

I will admit to having bee a FILA REAL WOMAN MODEL a few years ago…but they were not my biggest fans after I kept trying to explain this very thing to them about the name.
We humans can be ridiculous sometimes.

Allie February 1, 2016 - 6:17 am

AMEN to this!!! Shaming goes both ways and I love how you’re calling attention to that. We need to all lift one another UP, period.
And I couldn’t agree more about Barbie. Not a fan, but I never had these choices either.

Janine Huldie February 1, 2016 - 6:48 am

I love this and yes you said this absolutely perfectly as to when I was younger for one fact so much of this was truly black or white now we most certainly are seeing more shades of grey mixed in and real discussions coming forth like the one you have just began here. So hats off to you now and always for allowing this place to be a safe place for conversations like this.

Tamieka February 1, 2016 - 9:19 am


I have a similar blog post floating in my head.

Body shaming is wrong weather you are slim,fit, fat,etc.

I have had moms say to me, well while you were becoming a fit mom, I was caring for and raising my kids. You know I went off!!

Thanks for the post! Well written and stated.

From Mrs. to Mom February 2, 2016 - 12:33 pm

I agree we are are real! It would be nice to acknowledge the variety of shapes, sizes, and shades without putting down any particular type.

I applaud Barbie for attempting to broaden the doll spectrum. I hope the trend continues.

Leslie February 4, 2016 - 9:33 pm

Absolutely agree, Nellie! I have friends who are thin, but they are just as real and have real problems just like me and other ‘curvy’ girls out there. Not only that, but there’s become an insinuation that curvy equals overweight. Let’s be clear, girls with curves will be that way even when they are skinny. It will be interesting to see how girls react to the new Barbie line. I wasn’t a huge Barbie girl either. Then again, I still don’t see a Barbie with thin, stringy hair! ๐Ÿ˜›

Tamara February 9, 2016 - 10:46 am

I’m so with you. I’ve always been underweight and mocked for it as a kid. People were like, “Well.. maybe one day you’ll get womanly curves.” F that! We’re all real. I weigh 115 pounds and if I could weigh more, I would.
I love your sentiment, as always. It’s not fun on either side of body shaming. There should be none.

Domonique February 9, 2016 - 6:45 pm

Love this article! So true. We have become so comfortable in labeling everything and trying to define what is “in”, “real” and “right”. We need focus more on what matters, supporting each other regardless.

Nicole February 22, 2016 - 9:57 am

Agreed. Lets embrace diversity, all bodies are beautiful.

ROSE HARRIS September 26, 2017 - 7:03 am

It’s Wrong to say that who is real who is not all us are a human being with different shape and color.


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