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3 Crucial Pieces of Advice For a New Blogger

by Nellie

3 Crucial Pieces of Advice For a New Blogger

3 crucial tips for new bloggers

Make Friends, quickly.

I’ve mentioned many times before when I started blogging I didn’t know where it would take me. I never, ever wrote these words for fame and fortune. I really just wanted to connect with like minded people and maybe even motivate. My inbox has been filling constantly lately with opportunities–I can’t accept them all but just like that I have been allowed to bless a friend or two with a paid opportunity. I don’t have the highest numbers but one thing I do have is the most amazing audience a girl could ask for.

I remember the shade, the mean girl-ness  I received at BlogHer 12 when no one took me seriously. I felt so lonely at a conference with over 3000 women–in my own city. I had only been blogging a year. Sure I knew a few people but I legitimately had no one to enjoy it with. It was maddening and not a feeling I was used to. You have to find your own way in this blog world because you will start off solo.

Be consistent/never stop working

I don’t consider myself a huge blogger but I am consistent. I have gone from being excited about my first real event to picking and choosing which events (if any) require my attendance. The quality of events have become increasingly more exclusive and payment for coverage is now the norm.

I say none of this to brag, but honestly I work hard on this page. Yet it never feels like work. I never feel the need to take breaks because although the work is time consuming — it’s effortless. I’ve never struggled to write a post. I think I could post at least 13-14 times a week if I had the time to do so, words just flow consistently and this blog is where they end up. The blog has never been a source of stress. Once it does, that’s the end. (See you on twitter!!)

If you really have a story to share give it your all. Many nights I stayed up late working on the blog without a dime coming in. In 2013/2014 I invested a lot of money in myself to go to blog conferences–learn–and implement immediately. Finally I can say I have an decent second stream of income while keeping my integrity in check.

Don’t Brag/Don’t Whine

Lately I’ve seen a lot of bloggers on the opposite sides of the spectrum. On one side there are bloggers who refuse to take less than “insert exorbitant fee here” per post—every single post is sponsored and they make sure they let everyone know about their “status”. Then there are bloggers who grumble at those making money, constantly comparing themselves, wondering why they aren’t picked for campaigns instead of making necessary changes for growth.

You get out what you put in. You waste a lot of time letting the world know how you feel instead in doing the work. There have been so many shifts in blogging since I started–new networks to master, new rules to follow. A great rule of thumb is to spend the most time where you feel most comfortable and make your blog into something that is yours–no one else’s.

Veteran bloggers and new bloggers–what advice do you wish you have known when first starting out?


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Kristina Walters February 16, 2015 - 5:40 am

There were a lot of bumps and I am still learning. It is a process that takes time to master. Great advice Nellie!

Janine Huldie February 16, 2015 - 6:05 am

Couldn’t agree with you more, especially the friends part and am so very glad we are indeed friends. Also, so timely as I wrote tips for new bloggers and submitted at the end of the week to SITS at the end of last week to run this Thursday. So great minds really do think alike 😉

Allie February 16, 2015 - 6:08 am

AGREE! I think it’s important to stay true to your own space and not get caught up in what everyone else is doing. Stay true to your blog voice and focus. Great advice here for a very successful blogger mama!!!

Diane February 16, 2015 - 7:30 am

This is really solid advice. I think the first point about making friends is really important, especially via email – and it’s extra important you’re not in a major metropolitan area and can’t physically meet up with people. Online friends are real friends! I find that people generally want to help others and establishing that initial connection makes it so much easier to collaborate and do favors for each other down the road. Have a great week!

Diane February 16, 2015 - 7:32 am

*WHEN you’re not in a major metropolitan area

Sorry, Nellie, was rushing there. Sometimes there’s this black semi-transparent overlay that I get on your site so I was trying to get my comment in before that happened. Almost like it’s a popup but it covers everything and there’s no ad or anywhere to click out of. Could be my computer though, gonna try on another browser. (just happened now, hitting esc got rid of it). Anyone else seeing the same thing?

Nellie February 16, 2015 - 2:35 pm

Sorry about that Diane! It’s for my newsletter signup–on certain computers there is a popup but on others there isn’t (I’m thinking Macs!) thank you for telling me, I’m trying to figure out a way to make it work.

Carla February 16, 2015 - 7:58 am

I like the comment about if the blog becomes stressful it’s the end. I think people should take that to heart. The blog shouldn’t define you, you define the blog.

Know your tax laws. I just did my taxes and it wasn’t what I had expected due to the income I brought in from blogging in 2014.

Britt February 16, 2015 - 10:30 am

I definitely think that you should post about what you love! If you love it, it shows. Also, don’t be scared to ask for what you think you are worth because you spend a lot of time and effort on your blog! You may not get it but no one is going to advocate for you but you!

Kim February 16, 2015 - 2:27 pm

Great tips!! I wish I had been commenting on the blogs I read before I started my own blog – it probably would have made things easier!!
I struggled a lot with comparing myself to other bloggers early on – I had to step back and make a decision about several things in order to consider blogging in a healthy way.

Kita February 16, 2015 - 10:48 pm

Great tips be consistent and also never forget where you come from. So many bloggers forget where they started and they get a big head and don’t even speak anymore.

Leslie February 17, 2015 - 10:25 am

Great tips, Nellie! I wish I’d spent more time up front on the networking aspect. I feel so far behind, but it’s all good. Like you said, you get what you put in!

Jenn February 17, 2015 - 11:27 am

Nellie, I agree with making friends & being consistent, but I would also add: Know who you are writing for.

There is a big difference between writing for your own pleasure versus sharing a targeted message to a specific audience.

I sort of knew who I was writing for when I started 2 years ago, but was so overwhelmed with HOW to blog that it was easy to forget WHY.

Practice makes perfect!

Tamara February 17, 2015 - 8:26 pm

I love this. I don’t have high numbers. I don’t even want them. I just want my friends. When I went to BlogU, which was nothing like BlogHer, I realized how small I was. Funny, right? I’m big within my group of friends, but all of you are big to me too.

There’s just so much to say to a newbie, and I do it often because of my sister. So many things – replying to come commenting, not using captcha, and most importantly – having fun with it.

Nicole February 18, 2015 - 11:39 pm

All great tips, Nellie! I think that at the beginning of my blogging days, I didn’t put as much of a focus on blogger community engagement as I do now. I really enjoy my blogger friend relationships, and think it’s important to immerse yourself in the blogger community as much as you can.

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Wendy April 2, 2015 - 7:53 am

As a brand new blogger, this is very helpful. I’ve only been at this venture about a month, and I no idea (1) how much time I could invest without even noticing the clock (I agree with you – it doesn’t feel like work!)’ and (2) how important it is to create community. Also, as a newbie not knowing where this would go, I didn’t really want to invest in a designer, so I chose free themes and have been learning as I go. I have spent a massive amount of time on the look and functionality of my blog, instead of actually doing the things I’m supposed to be writing about! Still, my space is so far from where I want it to be. Perhaps a bit of investment would have been a wiser choice?

Kelly April 2, 2015 - 9:49 am

Loved the tips! I went to Blogher13 in Chicago, my hometown. I understand the feeling of being alone. I’m an introvert anyway and not knowing thousands of women on top of it was stressful. Still glad I went though! I also think it becomes more difficult connecting with people as adults too. I’m trying to read more blogs and make friends.

Sarah Nenni Daher April 2, 2015 - 11:23 am

Great tips, Nellie! Found you through SITS girls today (congrats) 🙂

I love your note about stress – if the space ever becomes stressful, take a break! Some bloggers don’t allow themselves that and they get burned out.

My one tip: set a realistic schedule and work to get ahead of it. The best thing I ever did for myself (and my space) was to work hard to have a back up of posts, all ready to go.

Life is meant for living, not blogging, and having a pool of posts to pull from removes most of the stress.

luisa April 4, 2015 - 10:33 pm

Nice article! I was ready to read your tips all night long! I am actually going to my first conference – blogher. Anxious a bit. xxx


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