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Three Qualities You Need to Succeed On Your Healthy Living Journey

by Nellie

Blogging While Brown Conference January Blog Carnival - Health and Fitness

Today I am hosting the Blogging While Brown Blog Carnival for January. I attended the Blogging While Brown conference last June and I learned so much from my peers! This month’s theme is Health & Fitness.

You guys know that I have a love for fitness, it is my place to escape all of the crazy. When my day is super stressful at work (or even at home) I go the gym, put on my Beats by Dre headphones and do some work until the magical endorphins appear. My weight issues have fluctuated from high to low but one thing that has always remained consistent is my daily determination to exercise.

I started this blog years ago because  I was pregnant and couldn’t do what I LOVED to do (exercise like crazy) because of very painful sciatica. The blog then evolved into a message that showed moms, stay at home moms, working women, working women who were moms, that you can always find time for fitness. Always.

During the last sermon of the year, my pastor taught us the three things a man should have being the head of the family. As I thought about these three things, I realized that you need these three things to stay on track with your fitness journey as well.

3 qualities you need to succeed on your healthy living journey

1) Decisiveness: There may come a point where you are sick of how you look or how you eat. Nothing will happen in your journey until you make the decision to change. For example: I knew I have had issues with my eating for the past 2 years. When I came home from Blogalicious I saw myself in pictures and made the decision to change. Making that decision has changed my perspective but it has also made things that much harder because I can no longer do what I used to. But with  the changes I have done more than I was able to in 3 months than I have in 2 years.

2) Consistency: Looking back at my journey, this was the one thing I struggled with the most. I really had a wondering eye when it came to diets. I saw what was working for one person so I tried it for a few weeks. Then I heard whispers at a conference about what worked for this person so I tried that. Then there are all of the diet trends that get thrown at you daily like Paleo, low carb, high carb, gluten-free, weight watchers, Jenny Craig, fat free, vegan, South beach–the list goes on. I wanted the best body possible so I was willing  to try all of these things. If it didn’t work after 2 weeks, I gave up and moved on. Now that I have been calorie counting consistently and logging my foods daily the major transformation has begun. There are certain days weeks where I flirt with trying a new program because I am frustrated with the slow progress but I know in the end consistency will get me through,  and it will get you through as well.

3) Strength: this is a doosie when it comes to working out and weight-loss. There are so many days out of the week where is takes a ton of strength to even get out of the bed much less workout. It’s about finding strength in the moments that you never would have even thought about before. For me it’s the little things, saying  no to my husband every night as he offers me anti diet foods to share with him. Saying no to the cookie barrage of the holidays. There are occasions where I still say YES but those are much fewer and far between. I find strength in saying no. It reinforces the journey that I am on. It takes a ton of strength to tell your friends that you have plans, to ignore the side eyes, to close your ears to the mocking giggles and the claims that you are “missing out”. You need strength to make decisions and you need strength to stay consistent.


Although I am deep in the daily grind of my during I know these three things will bring me through. Whether you are looking to lose weight, start a new career, build a business–all three of these thing must be present to succeed.

For the January Blogging While Brown Blog Carnival I am so happy to feature some fantastic Health & Fitness posts from some amazing bloggers:

Lia from The Get Fit Diva shares her AWESOME Fitness Goals for 2014

Joi from Rx Fitness Lady talks about her new 90 Day Challenge

Teems over at Baby Teems shares her Operation Snapback Get Started Workout

Kimberly over at Manifest Yourself discusses her personal Journey To Wellness

Valerie over at Live Fit Journey talks about her 2014 Fitness Goals

Cass over at Losing In The City breaks down why She is Choosing To Be Fearless In The New Year + A Giveaway

Crystal over at My Faith and Fitness Blog  talks about how 2013 Has Come To An End& 2014 Will Be Epic!!!

Do agree with these three qualities? Which one is most important to you? Will you join me in my twitter chat if even out of pity? 🙂

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Kenya G. Johnson January 6, 2014 - 5:58 am

I think calorie counting is the best when it comes to dieting. With me I’ve had to use one of those you’ve mentioned above to reach a level of discipline first. Strength – it is hard to stay up with my husband and watch television with him. When I am done eating for the day I want to retreat to my room – not watch him eat snacks after 9:00. I’m pinning your graphic.

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 3:53 pm

I hear you Kenya! My hubby is the same, he gets so darn SNACKY at night–he offers me the entire fridge too. Goodness.

Allie January 6, 2014 - 6:24 am

Oh yes I absolutely agree and consistency is where most people get tripped up. It’s what really separates success from failure. It’s all those in-between days and weeks and months of “being good” and getting to the gym that make the difference and it’s also where most of your normal life can get in the way of your goals. It’s best to take it one day at a time and there’s no better time to start then a new year!
The date for your Twitter party says June 21 – is it supposed to be January?? Either way – I will absolutely join you 🙂

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 3:52 pm

yes thank you! I corrected it. It will be Jan 21 @ 7pm see you there!

Janine January 6, 2014 - 7:08 am

I totally didn’t know you had sciatica during your pregnancy and and think though you knew I did. But seriously wish mine would have been done an over with after my pregnancy was over, but mine was the gift that keeps on giving. Thankfully it is under control right now, but I go to a chiropractor weekly to help keep it that way. So, I am always so careful when I do workout and make sure not to move the wrong way to hurt myself in that area. Thanks for sharing and you know I do very much love reading your tips here! 🙂

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 3:51 pm

Yes, that’s why I totally get your pain. I remember it and it was SO awful, I wouldn’t wish it on my enemy. I can only imagine how much care you have to take in order to keep that area stable!

Kimberly {Manifest Yourself} January 6, 2014 - 7:21 am

Consistency & Strength are the two biggies for me. I have the motivation but get easily frustrated when another birthday, holiday or vacation passes and I haven’t lost the weight.

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 3:50 pm

I hear you girl. It takes SO MUCH to get this done!!

Miz January 6, 2014 - 7:39 am

and now? 🙂 PUPPY REARING.


thedoseofreality January 6, 2014 - 7:57 am

I definitely struggle most with consistency. I tend to do really well and then do really badly! Great post! My word for 2014 is balance, because I need to find it in all the ways.-Ashley

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 3:48 pm

balance is a great word!!

Hope January 6, 2014 - 8:34 am

Love those three points. I agree that you need strength to be decisive and consistent, but I also think that consistency will help you gain strength. They all compliment and work well together. I’m sure that was a great sermon for the men being the head of the house, but thanks for relating it to our fitness journey.

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 3:42 pm

No problem, my pastor has been on fire lately– our theme this year is focus. “focus is power”

Brittnei January 6, 2014 - 11:09 am

I totally agree with these tips! These are all what needs to happen inside of a person for sure when they truly want to live healthy. It takes the Big D though and that is discipline. You definitely aren’t going to always feel like doing most things in life, but in the end, when you do what you need to do and not always what you want to do, you can see results in this area for sure! xo Thanks for sharing this with us Nellie!

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 3:42 pm

absolutely Brittnei! Discipline is such a key in ANY journey!!

Tamara January 6, 2014 - 11:58 am

Isn’t it funny how there’s often a moment or series of moments that lead to decisiveness, and then that’s it. You don’t turn that around. I’ve had that with health-related moments out there. The moment I went to the dentist for the first time in two years was prompted by a toothache! Now I’m strong and consistent.
Anyway, not totally related but I get it. For me it’s a rock bottom feeling.

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 3:40 pm

The rock bottom feeling is exactly where we are prompted to make a change!! Then we need the strength not to get back there again 🙂

KalleyC January 6, 2014 - 12:40 pm

I believe that constancy is key! I’ve lost my weight through counting calories and working out, and that is what I have been going back to. It’s so simple that what we put in is what we get out, that we sometimes forget that. While it’s hard to see the slow progress, it’s something I can live with. Slow and steady wins the race.

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 3:39 pm

yes what we put in is definitely what we get out!! I have to keep reminding myself of that every day!

Michelle January 6, 2014 - 2:06 pm

It really does sound like you have a good plan! Staying consistent with my workouts and eating healthy for the most part is what works for me. I could never stick to a diet because I love food too much. What I can do is cut back on the bad stuff without taking it away from myself permanently. I know I’d fall off the wagon then.

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 3:38 pm

oh absolutely Michelle, I don’t believe in stopping eating what you love (because I sure do!) I just believe in managing it in a way that maintains good health!

FitBritt January 6, 2014 - 2:15 pm

These are great qualities! I think you hit the nose on the head. In my opinion, consistency is the most important one. You are never going to achieve results if you are not consistent with your workouts and diet!

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 3:23 pm

Amen Britt! 🙂

Kim January 6, 2014 - 2:48 pm

I think all 3 of those points are right on!!! Consistency is the key to so much of our lives and especially in our quest to be healthy!!

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 3:07 pm

I agree Kim! Stay consistent and you will almost always reach your goal!

Teems January 6, 2014 - 6:31 pm

I agree with consistency. But without the strength and determination, it will be impossible. Good tips and happy share a post of mine with your readers for the carnival. I really will like to attend the conference this time.

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 3:06 pm

I hope you can go Teems! Its a really great conference.

Losing in the City January 6, 2014 - 7:11 pm

this is spot on. for me, consistency was my biggest struggle. i would go from 2 really great months to 5 really bad months. it took me awhile to finally get control of that, and every so often when i feel myself going down the path of inconsistency i work to get myself back on track.. and next, strength is such a big one.. on top of what you outlined, the need for strong mental strength is so key achieving your health goals

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 3:05 pm

Good point! mental strength is like the glue that brings it all together because if you are not mentally tough, you don’t stand a chance!!

Sherelle January 6, 2014 - 8:29 pm

I totally agree with the three qualities! For me, consistency is a biggie! I know that being consistent with anything can lead to successful results! I’ll definitely join you on the 21st for your twitter chat! 🙂 Happy New Year!!

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 2:51 pm

Yay thanks Sherelle!

Leslie January 6, 2014 - 9:46 pm

I couldn’t imagine three better qualities to focus on and really felt myself saying “me too!” to everything. Consistency is definitely the hardest thing for me as well. All those fad diets sound so good, right? But even the ‘successful’ ones often require unsustainable changes. It’s got to be a change from the heart and for the long run. (Pun not intended, but so relevant!)

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 2:50 pm

exactly Leslie! consistency is the big key for me. Staying within my calories daily is a challenge but when I am consistent I see results.

Harija January 6, 2014 - 9:50 pm

Great post and I hope to start a healthy lifestyle this year too!! These three tips are great!!

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 2:49 pm

Thanks for stopping by Harija! (Love your name!)

GiGi Eats Celebrities January 6, 2014 - 10:24 pm

Consistency! YES IN DEED! If you don’t keep it consistent, then it won’t become routine, and won’t become a part of your life!

Ilene January 6, 2014 - 11:07 pm

Honey, this is good. Really good. Decisiveness, consistency, and strength. I think I am going to write those three words with a sharpie on a piece of paper and put it somewhere where I can see it all the time. I’d think those 3 words would help us succeed with anything.

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 2:17 pm

I totally did that! I have it on a post it at work. It applies to every situation!

Melissa January 7, 2014 - 12:06 am

I agree with all of three of these qualities not only for fitness and health but in life in general! I may use this as I develop materials for my nutrition practice.

Happy New Year Nellie and I look forward to following your 2014 unfold!

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 2:17 pm

happy new Year Melissa! I totally agree, I wish I had this when I started. 🙂

Andrea January 7, 2014 - 12:36 am

Right before reading this post I left a comment on Joi’s blog asking that she write a post to help motivate persons who work out alone. This post is the semi-answer to what I was asking Joi to write. I respect your determination and will. Kudos!

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 2:16 pm

Thanks girl. Its not easy but sometimes you gotta do it alone!

Cam January 7, 2014 - 1:11 am

Great post! Great points too. Funny how those qualities translate into work out life. I am making small changes around here. Since I’m an at home mom now, I can’t run down to the gym during lunch like I used to. I got a Jillian Michaels DVD and I am going to get my butt moving one way or another! I think consistency is most important.

I’ll have to put your twitter chat on my calendar. Not out of pity. 🙂

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 2:15 pm

Thanks Cam! 🙂 Jillian Michales is NO joke! I still have her shred DVD that I am way to scared to open LOL

Joi January 7, 2014 - 8:19 am

Yes and consistency in my opinion is priority. I truly believe that most of the weight loss programs work. I know because I’ve witnessed results. Just like you mentioned in the post, with EVERYTHING in life consistency is the key. One of the reasons I love teaching classes. Locked in consistency for fitness 🙂 !

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 2:14 pm

absolutely Joi! Consistency is the make or break of any goal.

LaShawn January 7, 2014 - 1:56 pm

I am so bad with consistency! It’s so hard to be consistent around here! But we just ordered a elliptical, a bike and I ordered a fitbit. I WILL DO THIS!!

Nellie January 12, 2014 - 2:10 pm

Oh man I wish I had an elliptical at my house!

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