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The One With The Unruly Hair

by Nellie

The One With The Unruly Hair


Somewhere deep down in my heart when I was in my late teens, I realized that my high school boyfriend was going to be my husband. This meant babies! In my head we would have 3 little girls and we would sit around all day having multiple tea parties and doing our nails. God had other plans! ๐Ÿ™‚


I was always so curious about the hair our kids would have. My husband’s hair is very thin and straight,ย  and even though he is Puerto Rican he has no curl AT ALL in his hair. Meanwhile my hair is the kinkiest hair in the world. So somehow I thought we could get a nice perfectly flowing blend of our hair textures.


My eldest baby’s hair is a nice combination of the both of us. Somehow I thought I would be able to handle it–I totally wasn’t! My daycare provider gave him beautiful cornrows until he got his hair cut when he turned three.

My youngest is a different story. His hair is definitely more coarse and curly. The weirdest part? He has an insane amount of hair on the top of his head and the back just simply never caught up.



And since his hair is more coarser that his brothers, trying to comb it, or even undo braids is the struggle of all struggles.

But even though his hair is harder to manage he has the best curls ever! His little ringlets flop around the place and he loves it. I always wonder if he is going to grow his hair out like the Bulls player Joakim. That is if the back of his head ever catches up!


Then I think about what I would have to deal with if I had to put bows and clips in this type of hair everyday. Oh my.

I will just remain thankful to my girl at the daycare and enjoy the rare moments when his hair is wild and free (and untamed!).


p.s. I launched my newsletter today! If you have seen it, let me know what you think. If you havenโ€™t signed up, what are you waiting for?!ย sign up here! ๐Ÿ™‚

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Allie January 28, 2014 - 6:46 am

Hahahaha I think I have the same hair as your son – although mine is unmanageable ALL over! He is so adorable and the hair is AWESOME! I was so glad I had boys b/c my hair is the worst (which is why I keep it so short) and the boys I just cut when it gets too crazy. One more thing about boys that’s easierโ€ฆwell, it’s supposed to be!! Great pictures – loved them all.
I’ll be checking my email for your newsletter! Can’t wait…

Nellie January 28, 2014 - 6:25 pm

I know I should cut it, but there is an old wives tale in the Jamaican culture that says we shouldn’t cut the baby’s hair until they are speaking clearly. smh lol

Janine January 28, 2014 - 7:10 am

The bows, the clips, the ponytails and braids – this is so my life. As much as I thrive on the challenges of my girls; hair at times, there are days I wish I could just let it go here, because it truly can be a pain in the butt, especially washing their hair, because of course neither really likes it and will cry if the water is too hot, cold or in between (s definitely bath time equals no fun around here!). But seriously, your little guy is absolutely adorable and love, love, love his hair ๐Ÿ™‚

Nellie January 28, 2014 - 6:26 pm

Omg my kids do the same thing!! I feel the water before I put it on and its always warm but according to them its too hot or too cold. drives me nuts!

Michelle January 28, 2014 - 8:10 am

Love his hair!! So cute! I am terrible with hair…luckily, my daughter is great with it and started learning how to do fun things with her hair at a young age, so I have never really had to do much. I am a ponytail kind of girl. My mom wasn’t good with hair either. My oldest has a mop. His curls grow up…my husband has tight curls in his hair and my son’s hair is similar to his, but looser curls and right now I can’t stand it. But he’s 16 and only wants to get it cut once in a blue moon and I pick my battles.

Nellie January 28, 2014 - 6:27 pm

Ha a MOP! That is exactly what my baby’s hair is! haha. Yes hair is not a battle to pick. Grades? yes. Hair? Not so much.

Lashawn January 28, 2014 - 9:16 am

Girl! Pookah’s hair at that stage was CRAZY!! Curls everywhere! Thank goodness for a haircut because it was just too much!

Nellie January 28, 2014 - 6:35 pm

I know, I need to cut it, my mom would hurt me though lol

Kita January 28, 2014 - 9:18 am

I would not be able to deal lol it would be cut off soon as he turned one. My son had a lot of hair I put that mess up in a ponytail ( I could not braid) til he turned one now it grows back so fast he just got it cut Saturday its now looking a hot mess and today is just Tuesday.

Nellie January 28, 2014 - 6:36 pm

I can’t braid for nothing! Those haircuts are expensive I need to learn how to cut it.

Kimberly (Manifest Yourself) January 28, 2014 - 9:50 am

I love his hair! It looks at lot like my nephew… and my sister refuses to cut or braid it. The sitter does it occasionally, but most of the time it is wild and free.

I have about 3 different textures of hair on my head right now. The back is perfectly curled, the middle is rough and rugged frizzy curls, and the top is very very loose curls… Learning to embrace all 3 textures though!

Nellie January 28, 2014 - 6:37 pm

I love it though, and that new gravatar!! gorg!!

FitBritt January 28, 2014 - 10:14 am

I think this describes my future dilemma. My husband has incredibly thick, coarse hair and if he grew it out it would be a mass of waves. I have very thin straight hair. I am worried about our kids. We actually call my husband’s hair “the bouf” when it gets too long because it is, well, bouffy! Haha.

I didn’t get your newsletter yet but I know I signed up! I’ll have to check my folders!

FitBritt January 28, 2014 - 12:40 pm

UPDATE! Just got the newsletter and it is fabulous! Way to go Nellie! ๐Ÿ™‚

Nellie January 28, 2014 - 8:32 pm

YAY thanks Britt!! woohoo!

Nellie January 28, 2014 - 7:08 pm

lol at the bouf! ๐Ÿ™‚ I bet your kids will have beautiful non bouffy hair. ๐Ÿ™‚

Quiana January 28, 2014 - 10:22 am

He has such awesome hair! My now 3 year old has a different texture than mine – nice tight curly coils and now as it’s getting longer some will often hang down in her face like she’s a mini-Michael Jackson. Also, since I’m done transitioning she’s VERY excited to have “hair like mommy.” I’m hoping the next one is boy so I won’t have 3 heads of girls’ hair to do (including mine).

Nellie January 28, 2014 - 7:05 pm

lol at mini Michael. Three heads of hair to do is a lot, but two little girls…?! What dreams are made of, my dreams at least ๐Ÿ™‚

Kim January 28, 2014 - 10:25 am

I love that hair – I hope he is always as care free and happy with it as he looks in those pictures.
And, I just got my newsletter while ago – It is awesome!! You rock!!!

Nellie January 28, 2014 - 8:09 pm

Thanks so much Kim! I appreciate it. I really worked hard on tweaking it! ๐Ÿ™‚

From Mrs. to Mom January 28, 2014 - 10:41 am

I love this so much! My son has unruly hair too and I love it! This is also funny because my husband makes references to Joakim as well. I wrote about my son’s hair journey (which is still ongoing) as well. I’m don’t think Iโ€™ll ever be ready to cut it!

Nellie January 28, 2014 - 8:10 pm

I’m so not!! I think maybe I will be ready when he turns three, I just hope I can make it till then! ๐Ÿ™‚

Hope January 28, 2014 - 11:27 am

LOL. I first read this post this AM on my phone at my little screen did no justice to those pic. He is so ca-ute, but whoa!..on my desk top it’s a whole notha view.lol. I think his hair is great. Love his curls and crazy ๐Ÿ˜‰ Girl a little spay bottle with water, olive oil and a light moisturizer works wonder for managing any hair. I went natural so my daughter could stop wishing for straight hair. My texture is soft, hers…lawd have mercy. I just learned how to manage her hair after researching natural hair for me.
Thank God for your boys though…I prayed for a boy so i wouldn’t have to comb any more hair. great post

Nellie January 28, 2014 - 8:14 pm

Aw I love that she stopped wishing for natural hair because she had you as an example!

Andrea B ( January 28, 2014 - 12:01 pm

My goodness I LOVE that hair!!!

Your wee one is TOO cute and I love these pics. Adorable.

Nellie January 28, 2014 - 8:17 pm

Thanks Andrea!! good luck with that storm in your area girl!

KalleyC January 28, 2014 - 12:18 pm

He does have cute hair though! I love the curls. My daughter’s curls have S curls and Z curls, and my son just has loose curls. I love their hair, it’s a nice combination of my hair and Mr. C. As for my hair, i love it! I can’t get enough of my Dreads. I don’t know if I’ll ever trim them again, but right now I’m just loving it so much, my daughter said she wanted dreads too! (we’ll wait on that though)

Nellie January 28, 2014 - 8:21 pm

Aww I love that your daughter wants dreads too!! so cute!

Alison January 28, 2014 - 1:14 pm

He is adorbs, Nellie. Put some natural oils like jojoba or even olive oil on his curls and he’ll be good to go. Especially put oil on the back where it needs to catch up.

Nellie January 28, 2014 - 8:33 pm

ooh good idea Alison! I gotta try that!! Thank you. ๐Ÿ™‚ xo

Carly January 28, 2014 - 2:43 pm

He is SO cute!! I love his hair! I can’t imagine having to do a girl’s hair, I never learned all the braiding and cute stuff for myself, let alone a daughter! Your newsletter is awesome – great job, congrats!

Nellie January 28, 2014 - 8:34 pm

Thanks Carly! I really appreciate it!!

Leslie January 28, 2014 - 10:07 pm

Look at all those curls! So stinking adorable! I have very thin, frizzy hair. It doesn’t look good for more than about five minutes. If itโ€™s humid, it gets an annoying wave to it thatโ€™s enough to make it look like I didn’t do anything to it. If itโ€™s dry out, I look like my hands are constantly attached to one of those static electricity balls (remember those things we thought were so much fun when we were kids?). The Husband has fantastic, thick and dark hair with a good bit of curlโ€ฆbut not too crazy. My fatherโ€™s is the same way. Naturally I hoped that our kids would have his hair. Unfortunately, they seem to have both gotten my limp, annoying hair. Who knows though, my father and I both had pretty drastic hair changes after early childhood!

Nellie January 29, 2014 - 9:55 pm

haha I do remember those!! Lets see what happens with your girls hair! Maybe things will change!

Kristin January 29, 2014 - 9:40 am

My husband and I both have super fine hair that is straight as can be, and both kids do too. I don’t like it, it’s so hard to do anything with it. My little girls hair looks so cute in the morning when I fix it, but 5 minutes later her bow is slipping out and I have to chase her around with little rubberbands and a brush all day.

Your little guy’s hair is adorable!! I love the curls!!

Nellie January 29, 2014 - 10:00 pm

ha, I can image you running around trying to keep it in bows! I think there is no type of kids hair that stays all in one place!

Patty January 29, 2014 - 10:18 am

I LOVE his hair! The curls are just precious. ๐Ÿ™‚

My hair is pin straight and I love it. I’d kill to have my sister’s natural curls. We couldn’t be more opposite when it come to hair. I curl mine whenever the urge strikes but she cannot straighten hers. It’s a fruitless effort because her hair curls back right away. it’s too funny!

Nellie January 29, 2014 - 10:01 pm

Aw that is so cute! Not even the extra strong straightener? wow!

catherine gacad January 29, 2014 - 3:02 pm

oh my goodness, can i just kidnap your little boy? he is the cutest. my mother and i both have an obsession with curly hair (ours is stick-straight asian). my first boyfriend had ringlets just like your son and my mom would fawn every time she saw him.

Nellie January 29, 2014 - 10:02 pm

ha ๐Ÿ™‚ That is so cute!

Joi January 29, 2014 - 3:16 pm

I’m cool with my hair texture, it just gets annoying trying to workout. The youngest is adorable with all those curls! I think dealing with hair (male or female) is going to be my biggest complaint!

Nellie January 29, 2014 - 10:03 pm

Yes it is a lot! Especially when there is a lot of hair involved ๐Ÿ™‚

Tamara January 29, 2014 - 6:29 pm

I was a bit surprised that Des was born with stick straight hair. Really, no one else in our families ever were. My husband has waves and was born with curls. Same with his brothers. My sister and I were born with shirley temple curls, and hers grew very kinky while mine is really more wavy these days. Scarlet was born with the same curls, and hers turned to waves like mine. Silky waves – hers.
So Des..it’s just weird. With so many curly heads in our family, I really don’t know what to do with his!

Nellie January 29, 2014 - 10:05 pm

Maybe Des’ hair will change!! ๐Ÿ™‚ I love it though! its so adorbs.

pegster January 29, 2014 - 9:47 pm

Girl, that is a lot of hair on that baby. I am loving the curls though. My two also have a different curl pattern and I love both.

PS – We totally need to put them in their “I love my bro” shirts and showcase the hair ๐Ÿ™‚

Nellie January 29, 2014 - 10:07 pm

YES let’s do it!!!

Nellie January 29, 2014 - 9:56 pm

I feel like if I cut it I will lose a bit of his personality. But I will need to do this one day. Just not today. lol!

Nellie January 29, 2014 - 9:58 pm

See! My mom used to force me to get perms too, I haven’t had one in about 10 years too and its the best decision. if you have a girl she is gonna be so adorbs no matter what kind of hair she has! Especially if she looks like her bro!

Nellie February 2, 2014 - 10:05 pm

When we was we use the johnson and johnson detangler. It helps a little, but not by much!


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