This post was inspired by Saturday Night Widows by Becky Aikman. After being kicked out of her widow support group for being too young, Becky creates her own support group with an unusual twist. Join From Left to Write on February 14 as we discuss Saturday Night Widows. As a member, I received a copy of the book for review purposes.
One of the my favorite characters in the book was Dawn; she was one of the six widows who like the rest lost her husband way too early. What I liked about Dawn though was her overwhelming positive attitude despite all that she had been through and all the challenges she had to overcome to get used to a new normal without her husband. This got me thinking, could I be so positive if something this catastrophic happened to me?
Daily I try to be as positive as possible, and like most, I have my bad days, but I do believe that postivity is the only way to go. I feel like it rewires the brain to believe that the day will go great no matter what. I also firmly believe in being grateful for everything I receive. So rarely will you catch me being emotional about #firstworldproblems on social media because I don’t believe that the negative stuff really deserves that much attention. Let’s face it, the negative stuff is there, it hangs around annoying the crap out of us–however I firmly believe its about how much attention we pay to it.
I recently had a person tell me (in a very negative way) that I always act as if my “life is so perfect”. At first I didn’t know how to react–I thought to myself, “Am I putting a perfect image out of there??” The answer was yes. I am ALWAYS celebrating my children, celebrating my life accomplishments, and even celebrating the little things because they are important and I don’t expect anything to be handed to me on a platter…I work hard for it ALL. You will sometimes read my rants and raves on the blog but I’m never the type to wear my problems on my sleeve and inform the entire
So when this person said this to me, it was A) a perfect reason for her to exit my circle and B) I was proud of myself that I keep celebrating the good in life. Anybody who knows anything about life knows that no-body is perfect, no one. I am far from it, but I do ramble on to my husband and my close circle of people about my issues, so what if I don’t want to share it with the world? I think it is best for everyone really to remain positive through it all because eventually it all gets better…I think when you have someone in your life that is rooting for you to fail that is the perfect opportunity to have them exit, stage left.
Staying positive is like yoga it is an art, it is a daily practice and it is an exercise.
Do you put it ALL out there? Do you consider yourself a positive person despite any negativity happening in your life? Do you believe in sharing your problems with the world?