Staying Positive When Everyone Craves Negativity

This post was inspired by Saturday Night Widows by Becky Aikman. After being kicked out of her widow support group for being too young, Becky creates her own support group with an unusual twist. Join From Left to Write on February 14 as we discuss Saturday Night Widows. As a member, I received a copy of the book for review purposes.

One of the my favorite characters in the book was Dawn; she was one of the six widows who like the rest lost her husband way too early. What I liked about Dawn though was her overwhelming positive attitude despite all that she had been through and all the challenges she had to overcome to get used to a new normal without her husband. This got me thinking, could I be so positive if something this catastrophic happened to me?

Daily I try to be as positive as possible, and like most, I have my bad days, but I do believe that postivity is the only way to go. I feel like it rewires the brain to believe that the day will go great no matter what. I also firmly believe in being grateful for everything I receive.  So rarely will you catch me being emotional about #firstworldproblems on social media because I don’t believe that the negative stuff really deserves that much attention. Let’s face it, the negative stuff is there, it hangs around annoying the crap out of us–however I firmly believe its about how much attention we pay to it.

I recently had a person tell me (in a very negative way) that I always act as if my “life is so perfect”. At first I didn’t know how to react–I thought to myself, “Am I putting a perfect image out of there??” The answer was yes. I am ALWAYS celebrating my children, celebrating my life accomplishments, and even celebrating the little things because they are important and I don’t expect anything to be handed to me on a platter…I work hard for it ALL. You will sometimes read my rants and raves on the blog but I’m never the type to wear my problems on my sleeve and inform the entire facebook universe that I broke a nail.

So when this person said this to me, it was A) a perfect reason for her to exit my circle and B) I was proud of myself that I keep celebrating the good in life. Anybody who knows anything about life knows that no-body is perfect, no one. I am far from it, but I do ramble on to my husband and my close circle of people about my issues, so what if I don’t want to share it with the world? I think it is best for everyone really to remain positive through it all because eventually it all gets better…I think when you have someone in your life that is rooting for you to fail that is the perfect opportunity to have them exit, stage left.

Staying positive is like yoga it is an art, it is a daily practice and it is an exercise.

Do you put it ALL out there? Do you consider yourself a positive person despite any negativity happening in your life? Do you believe in sharing your problems with the world?



Mommy. Fitness Addict. Socialite.
Schnelle "Nellie" Acevedo is a busy mom of two young boys (3 and 6), she is an Account Manager by day and a self proclaimed fitness junkie by night. Brooklyn Active Mama is a body positive community that focuses on demonstrating to all women that you can always find time for fitness. A recent running addict, Nellie has completed 7 Half Marathons and is currently training for the New York City Marathon on 11/1/2015. Nellie also is a co-founder of the annual A Healthy U Conference which is a conference dedicated to helping women improve their mental, spiritual and physical health. Nellie is a licensed Zumba instructor in Brooklyn. You can find Nellie on TwitterInstagramFacebookPinterest, PeriscopeGoogle Plus.


  1. I consider myself a positive person but a bit of a worrier too:) As a blogger we are quite out there but I’m not up to sharing my worries with the world. Have a great day!
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  2. I am positive on most days but find that my sleep deprivation makes it hard to stay positive. I love that you said positivity takes practice. Thanks!
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  3. This is an awesome post! I almost missed glad I am one of your biggest stalkers! I love that you remain positive. It is a blessings to read your celebrations of life over here. I agree, no attention should be given to the negatives..there is too much to be grateful for. I am way too private to put it all out there and that is not the world’s business anyway. I hope to grow into your closer circle eventually. I think we’d be besties outside of virtual life just the same!
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    • Ha, yes, I had to back date the post because I got the book club date all mixed up smh, thank you for still reading though, you are so awesome! I think the balance between what you choose to share and what you choose to keep private is crucial and honestly it keeps me from going crazy, because you know what they say about opinions……..everyone has one (LOL) We would totes be besties, I knew you were a good one from first click! haha

  4. **AVERTS EYES**
    I started this book last night!
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  5. I love this post. It resonates with me so well. I live by the motto, “Live life terrifically cause it’s never as bad as it seems.”

    I do everything possible to keep me positive. That includes keeping play-doh in my purse for a daily pick me up, and hiding post-it notes with uplifting messages around the home.
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  6. When everything gets you down, all you can do is see the flip side and be positive. Even through the toughest times I try seeing a silver lining. It’s hard at time, but when you open your eyes and realize that you are honesty and truly blessed–you shed all the negative thoughts and focus on the positive.

    I like having a balance, some things do require attention in order to purge and get it out of your system, but never should we allow that to rule us or bring us completely down. Even if we have to purge and share some of what’s on our minds, it makes us human like everyone else. Also, it does give us a chance to look at it and see that it really is nothing to worry about.

    When all else fails, do cardio! :-)
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  7. I love this and agree. My approach is to laughing at the bad stuff, because that somehow gives us power over it. The more positive we can be, the more good we’ll attract. Keep it up!
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  8. I just love this post, Nellie! No wonder I love you and your blog so much!!
    You nailed it…Staying positive is like yoga it is an art, it is a daily practice and it is an exercise. IT IS!!
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  9. My FB community would tell you I am an open book and, truthfully, I joke about the same. In reality I share a very small portion of what is really happening. Even on my blog I hold a lot back. I do share both positive and negative though. It can be hard for me to create that balance.


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