google translate

To Invite or Not Invite…What Would You Do?


To Invite or Not Invite…That is the question.

I love to plan events, if I could, I probably would do that full-time.

I love to plan birthday parties, girls night outs, book club meetings, christenings, you name it I love to plan it.

However, one part that I always get caught hesitating on is the invitee list.

Should be pretty simple, no?

Invite the people whom you want to celebrate this joyous occasion with.

Right?

But what if you have invited them over and over to events, and they have never attended?

Now this causes some awkwardness, especially if you see these people often (co-workers, church members, family members) and you consider yourself very close to them…you couldn’t possibly imagine them *not* celebrating with you.

How many times do you invite the person to an event?

Do you invite them a total of three times before you stop? Or do you continuously invite them, knowing they won’t show up?

Then, it presents a sort of awkwardness in the relationship…especially those who you consider yourself close with.

Especially, when they give you an excuse of why they couldn’t make it…again.

I know that I am pretty good at accepting rejection, if you don’t want to come, then I am totally okay with that. However, if I attend all of your events, and/or we are what I consider “close” then why not make the extra effort to come to my event?

Perhaps I am extra sensitive. Maybe I shouldn’t look so much into “attendance”.

I know this is an event filled year for us, my son’s third birthday coming up in March, my baby’s christening coming up in May and our wedding renewal coming up in August. I don’t want to give out “play” invites to people that I know won’t show up. I think we are better than that. I don’t want to seem…desperate?

What would you guys do? Have you ever had this situation?

Nellie

Nellie

Mommy. Career Woman. Fitness Addict.
Schnelle "Nellie" Acevedo is a busy mom of two young boys (2 and 4), she is a career woman by day and a self proclaimed fitness junkie by night. Brooklyn Active Mama is  a positive community that focuses on demonstrating to all women that you can always find time for fitness. She features a Weekly Wednesday Workout and a Friday Fitness Check-in series where she encourages her readers to check in and remain accountable for their fitness and nutrition goals weekly. In addition to getting in the gym 5 times weekly, Nellie became inspired to become a licensed Zumba instructor at Fitbloggin' 12. She now teaches a regular high energy Saturday Zumba class in Brooklyn. Since beginning to blog Nellie has lost 27lbs (and counting)! You can find Nellie on TwitterInstagramFacebookPinterest, & Google Plus.
Nellie
Nellie
Nellie

Latest posts by Nellie (see all)

Signature

Comments

  1. Deciding who to invite to our wedding was one of the hardest things. in the end we invited the people we felt we wanted to spend our evening with the MOST and it ended up being an awesome day. there were some we really wanted to be there who couldn’t come and that was ok too because it happens. if the people you invite are able to come..they will come…

  2. Similarly to you, I give it 3 invites and after that I assume nope they’ll probably not come.

  3. April Dorris says:

    I have the opposite problem. I’m hesitating putting together the invite list for my wedding because there are a few people I don’t want to invite and they will expect an invitation. What to do?
    But I would stop inviting people that never show up. Stop wasting money on the invite.

  4. Agreed, it just gets weird after a while

  5. yes, I think I need to cap it at three and keep it moving!

  6. I agree, all I can do is extend the invite!

  7. I actually have a rule. You get 2 invites to eevents from me. If you just delcine both times or dont show up, you will get no more. BUT if you are truly apologetic for not being able to attend then I may extend another one. I will never beg anyone to come to my events. I dont want anyone to feel like they HAVE TO come to something they dont actually want to. Just be up front with me.

  8. Kimberly from WorkItOutGurl says:

    This is hard! I am in a similar situation since I am planning my wedding for this August. I have decided that I will not stress myself inviting people who did not have the courtesy to rsvp for our engagement party or have a history of not showing up EVEN when they feel like they will definitely be on the invite list. I am also just eliminating people who I am not crazy about, I am at the point of not caring about being “politically correct” when I am hosting and have to go out of my way to invite someone who I am less than excited about. A bit rude? I know, but at the end of the day… it is YOUR event, and you need to be happy in the end.

  9. HarlemLoveBirds says:

    I identify completely! I used to keep inviting the same non-attendees and have since my holiday cookie exchange I finally ‘took the hint” and have trimmed my standard invitee list substantially. So far no damage done. Good luck!

join the conversation

*

CommentLuv badge


Design Elements by Munchkin Land Designs

Archives

Bloglovin’

Follow on Bloglovin

Pinterest

Follow Me on Pinterest

Google Plus

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Grab My Button

Brooklyn Active Mama

Subscribe To Nellie's Healthy Living Newsletter!

A monthly email filled with FREE gym workouts, workout tunes, healthy snacks on the go and more!

Close this popup

Sometimes life gets so busy that we fall into the same routine. This newsletter is full of awesome tips, and tricks to keep the gym FUN!

  • Free Gym Workouts
  • Healthy Snack Ideas (for the woman on the go)
  • Workout Songs That Will Get You Moving!
  • Workout Motivation